“I Just Want Some Peace and Quiet!”

ID-100185090Often, the words “I just want some peace and quiet” are spoken in frustration and don’t assure that your wish will be granted. When they are said calmly, however, it can be a different story – you can make it happen. How much attention do you give to creating peace and quiet in your life and work? It’s part of a balanced life and has many benefits.

Peace and quiet can foster creativity, calm your mind and emotions, center you and bring out your best. The next time you say, “I just want some peace and quiet” say it purposefully and make it happen.


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10 Ways To “Tip The Scales” In Your Favor

ID-10095922Tip The Scales: to make something more or less likely to happen, or to make someone more or less likely to succeed 

For your own success, and the success of projects you undertake, here is some advice for tipping the scales in your favor:

1. Be at your best – mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually

2. Spend adequate time preparing

3. Bring the right people into your team

4. Objectively assess the environment you are working in and how to succeed within it

5. Clearly define the goal of your effort

6. Define the outcome you are going for, in detail

7. Create a plan and update it regularly as the project progresses

8. Don’t push forward when it is evident that a strategy is not working

9. Regroup and revise when it is called for

10. Acknowledge when you succeed or fail and debrief on the experience to inform future endeavors

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Manager Coaching Skills: The Ability To Inspire

ID-100295019We all need inspiration, especially when we are stretching ourselves. Team members may come to coaching discouraged or unmotivated or daunted by what is expected of them. One very effective way to inspire is to lead by example. Show your team members that you are willing to do what it takes to excel and that they can too. Be a role model. Another way to inspire is to help individuals to see their strengths and the possibilities that lie before them. Show your faith in their ability to excel and face challenges. Inspire them by providing insights and suggesting strategies that help them move forward. Show your enthusiasm for their advancement.

Inspiration, by its very definition, makes someone want to do or create something they may not have considered before. Coaching is about advancement. Developing the ability to inspire is a win-win for both you and the team members that you coach.


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ID-100128824Self-Preservation: preservation of oneself from destruction or harm; a natural or instinctive tendency to act so as to preserve one’s own existence

Self-preservation may be instinctive; however it is worth your while to focus consciously on it in your workplace. Why? Because survival is not a given in any workplace. Numerous factors can threaten your success and well being if you are not aware of the environment you are working in. Self-preservation does not require paranoia, manipulation or obsession. Self-preservation requires intelligence, watchfulness and protection of your interests.

Here are some ways to focus on self-preservation in a constructive manner:

• Be keenly aware of (stay awake) when people either harm you or your interests at work. Maya Angelou once said: “When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.” It’s natural for some to have a tendency to let slights pass by or to dismiss them. You do not have to react to them, but you want to allow the facts to form your opinion of someone, rather than your wishes for how you’d like them to be.

• Identify what interests you want to protect. Do they relate to being given what you need to perform well, being treated in a certain manner, (for example, respected, valued, consulted, acknowledged), milestones you want to achieve in your career or what type of environment you can thrive in?

• Develop your emotional intelligence. This will help you to “see” what may be underneath people’s actions and also to mange your own emotions effectively.

As you put self-preservation on your radar, you will find that you are better able to act in your own interests when you need to.

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Boost Your Ability To Take Risks

ID-100128769In today’s work world, the ability to take risks is a skill that will serve you well. How do you take considered and wise risks, versus foolhardy or hasty ones? You develop your skill for risk-taking.

If you want to enhance your ability to take risks, a good way to start is observing in your workplace. Notice when people are taking risks and observe how they do it, how comfortable they appear to be with taking risks, what their risk-taking “style” is and if their risk-taking brings success.

You can take it a step further and study leaders who have taken risks (e.g. political leaders, business leaders, global leaders, citizen leaders). Note the inherent qualities of these leaders, what their motivations were to take risks, any price they paid for taking risks, what rewards they realized from taking risks, how they prepared for taking risks and whether they were impetuous or calculating in their risk-taking. Use their experiences to inform your own risk-taking.

Take a look at the boundaries of your current comfort zone with risk. To what degree are you risk-averse or risk-friendly? Start taking risks and continue observing-yourself this time. Begin with small risks, if you like. Test the waters-what works for you and what doesn’t? Develop your risk-taking style and step out of your current comfort zone

As you boost your ability to take risks, you’ll be a better and more confident manager, ready for what today’s work world demands.


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Myopic: Lack of discernment or long-range perspective in thinking or planning.

ID-10097959You have often read in this blog about the importance of living in the present moment. There’s no question that living in the present moment keeps you centered. However, that does not preclude looking long-range on a regular basis. You don’t want to be myopic – it does not serve you.

A long-range perspective increases your vision and preparedness for the future. It allows you to prepare for what may come. You can start from the present moment and look ahead at the potential results and consequences of your decisions and actions. Run any decisions or actions you are contemplating out a few years and use your critical mind and imagination to vision what your decision or action could look like at that time. Then, let your vision inform the present moment, as you move forward.

You can live in the present and, at the same time, be wise for the future. Let your vision grow and see grander vistas as you manage.


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10 Ways To Live Your Life Your Way

ID-10095551Many times, you can find yourself living your life according to the dictates of others, yielding to unwanted circumstances or defaulting on your dreams. Here are some ways to start reclaiming your life for you.

1. Know your values and honor them.

2. Affirm that you can be happy in your life.

3. Surround yourself with people who treasure you.

4. Create positive experiences that boost your spirits.

5. Examine any negativity in your life and what its source is.

6. Create continuous improvement in your life.

7. Set some targets for attaining new heights.

8. Extend yourself beyond your comfort zone.

9. Practice kindness to yourself and others.

10. Create a clear picture of what it means to live your life, your way.


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ID-10095021You hear the word authentic a lot these days. What does it mean to you as a manager? Authentic is being genuine, true and real. Are conditions right for you to be “authentic” in your work or is this just the word of the day? Being true to your self, matters. The question lies in how much of yourself you show in your managing and when some things are better not shown.

In my early career, as I learned the “game” I tried to shape myself to the professional world – dressing for success, learning the lingo, observing. My attention turned away from me to how to make it in the organizations I worked in. It has been quite a long journey back to true authenticity. It’s a journey I do not regret, but I am glad to be here. I can be here because I am working on my own, writing and, in some ways, am far from the madding crowd. There’s a price to pay here, too, but authenticity is achievable.

What level of authenticity is desirable and possible for you? What do you aspire to? You hopefully will not be inauthentic ever, but wouldn’t it be nice if organizations cultivated and appreciated the authenticity of their managers?


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Manage Yourself

?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Your work is not only about managing others; it is about managing yourself. You are the center. You must be in good shape personally to manage others effectively. What if your professional development as a manager centered on you – your balance, happiness, intellect and fulfillment rather than on rote skills or others’ definitions of leadership alone?

At a minimum, you can focus your professional development on managing yourself, even if others do not. You will see good results from this that move your career in a positive direction. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to get started:

• Do I value self-management as important to my career?

• How is my relationship with time?

• Have I achieved a reasonable level of balance in my life?

• Do I have a place within where I go to manage stress, set my direction and deal with challenges?

When you manage yourself and maintain a strong center, your work managing others will benefit. In the environment you manage in today, it is like finding the eye in the center of a hurricane; stillness and peace are the place you move out from, into the storm of everyday managing.


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Who Am I?

ID-10026253When I am working with clients who are preparing for an important event or meeting, we often use a tool named “Who Am I?” I first used the tool with a client who was uncertain of how he would present himself at an upcoming conference where he would be meeting people for the first time. Our purpose was to find a way that he could center, build his confidence and handle himself well.

The tool works like this:

• prior to a meeting or event, take time to identify who will be there and how you fit in (set the context)

• identify why you are attending and why you belong there (center yourself)

• take time to lay out what you want to say about yourself when you meet people and what you will say about why you are there (presenting yourself)

• identify any doubts or insecurities you have about the meeting and address them, so you are not caught off guard – in some cases there may not be anything to do about them, but decide how you will handle them – in other cases, chase them away (build confidence)

• identify 3 or more goals that you have for the event or meeting (focus yourself on results)

So often, preparation marks the difference between success and failure. Staying centered and focused goes a long way in building your confidence and reaching your goals.


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