What Stories Do You Tell Yourself?

In the early days of the coaching profession there was focus on the stories we tell ourselves. These stories impact our perspective, emotions and actions, as we build our careers and work every day.

Do you have a “story” that you tell yourself? Perhaps the story is that you are trapped in your current circumstances, that the world is against you, that there is no place to go or that you are underappreciated. Or, perhaps your story is that there are no limits, that you can do whatever you put your mind to or that the world will support you in your dreams. See the difference?

What stories do you tell yourself?

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Are You Where You Want To Be?

2017 is underway, are you? It is always a good idea to assess where you are in relation to where you want to be. Doing so, allows you to plan your moves accordingly.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

• Since the start of the year, have you been fulfilled in your work?

• What types of emotions have dominated your time at work?

• Have you been appreciated and challenged in your work?

• Is there something you want to change regarding your work?

Being proactive and keeping yourself going in a direction of your choosing prevents your being a victim of circumstance. Be an advocate for your best interests and you will get where you want to be.

 

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Absurdity

As you work, have you ever encountered a situation and thought, “this is absurd”? It may be a cynical reaction to the situation. However, it also may be a reaction worth paying some attention to. Absurd means wildly unreasonable, illogical, or inappropriate. That’s not too far out considering what you can encounter in your work, is it? You may dismiss an absurd situation as out of the norm, let it go or try to explain it away.

Looking carefully at a situation that strikes you as absurd, could give you some valuable insights about your workplace, let you see things as they really are or help you assess whether your organization is a match for you.

“If at first the idea is not absurd, then there is no hope for it.” ― Albert Einstein

 

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How Are World Events Affecting Your Workplace?

You do not work in an isolated bubble, do you? The world that surrounds you has influence and impact on your workplace. Currently, there is a lot of change, uncertainty and even chaos in the outside world. How is this affecting your workplace and you?

There is value in putting some focus on this. What’s going on in the outside world is being felt by nearly everyone. In the workplace, this can impact productivity, balance, emotions and interrelationships. Take some time to assess how your workplace is responding and reacting to the outside world right now. Address what you see and find ways to keep your team together and thriving through it all.

 

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Indecision

Indecision is tough. Everyone, in varying degrees, experiences it. You need time to make a decision –  that’s a given. However indecision, if allowed to go on too long, can paralyze you.

How can you get through indecision? Here are a few ideas:

• Give yourself a break. Your decisions are not set in stone. They are only set in the present moment, with the information you have available to you. Know that your past decisions do not own you. You can change a decision if things change in the future.

• Trust yourself that you are ready to make a decision. Your mind may play games telling you that you are not capable or ready, but you are.

• Do your best to let go of an expectation that you will make a perfect decision. Such a thing doesn’t exist. You can strive to make the best decision possible for you and that is pretty good.

• Do your best to identify your fears regarding a decision. What is the nature of your fear? Is it real or made-up? Figure out how can you confront any fears you encounter. Act in spite of the fear, knowing that you have thought the decision out as best you can.

You alone walk your journey. Only you can keep your feet moving on your path. Walk at the pace that works for you and keep yourself in motion.

 

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Stamina

The new year has begun. Are you fit for the journey? How will you maintain your stamina in 2017?

Stamina is the ability to sustain prolonged physical or mental effort. A key element of stamina is fitness – physical strength, mental acuity and emotional readiness. Also key is balance. To maintain your stamina, consider what keeps you going. Do you need a lot of sleep? What is the best balance for your life? How much physical exercise do you need? How do you preserve a positive emotional outlook? Do you need variety in your life to keep you challenged?

How will you maintain your stamina in 2017?

 

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Pacing

Time is finite. You have to take care of yourself and put your focus where it matters. There are always things to do and new directions to go in.

Pacing yourself effectively is a skill worth cultivating. Two things are involved: balance and prioritizing. Pacing yourself with these two things in mind will allow you to stay healthy and whole and will make sure you are putting your attention where it matters.

The next time you feel you should ”do more”, make sure to pace yourself and get where you want to go.

 

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Markers

Do you take notice of the markers in your work? Markers are events or major insights that stand out in your career. Examples of markers may be: a change in the management you report to, reaching a milestone goal in your work, an outstanding achievement, a failure that has impact, a turning point in your thinking or an important change.

Why take notice of markers? They focus you on what is happening and keep you conscious of your path forward. They also allow you to celebrate accomplishments, to be aware of the impacts of change and to learn from disappointments.

Are any markers visible to you now, or visible ahead?

 

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Staying In Place

Sometimes, staying right where you are is the best thing to do. Life and work can keep you moving, extending your reach and setting new goals – endlessly. However, there are times when staying in motion can create problems and, actually, keep you from where you want to go.

Here are some times when staying in place may be to your advantage:

  • Your energy is low and you are not functioning at high capacity. You need a rest.
  • There are obstacles in the way of getting where you want to be and you are not clear how to overcome them.
  • You have other priorities that take precedence.
  • You need a strategy to get there successfully and do not have one.
  • There are benefits to derive from staying where you are.

Always “going” is not a balanced circumstance. Staying in place, when the time is right, can help get you where you want to be.

 

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