Feeding Fear Instead Of Stopping It

Fear is unpleasant and disconcerting. It can show up in life and work, with people you love and those you don’t, in unfamiliar situations and because other people are promoting it.

If you don’t like feeling fear, make sure not to feed it. Fear can get a grip on you very quickly. It has a power of its own and takes courage and strength to deal with. Learn to recognize and understand your fear. Once it shows up, find ways to stop it, rather than letting it grow.

You can stop fear in many ways: by grounding in the present moment and looking at the cause of your fear and by finding techniques to deal with it such as employing ways to calm yourself down, engaging in physical exercise or identifying the usual causes of your fear and addressing them directly.

The next time you feel fear best to stop it, rather than feed it. Fear slows you down and scares you. Your life and work are better off without it.

 

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Where Are You Now?

You lead your life and work. Find ways to check in with yourself to assess if you are living and working in the best way possible for you. Stop periodically to make enhancements, course-corrections and to give yourself what you need to live your best life.

How are life and work going for you, right now, in the present moment?

 

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Pushing

Sometimes frustration, fear, worry or panic can get you to a point of pushing harder and harder to change a situation. It is worth your while to carefully consider any inclination you have to push and push. Depending on what is driving you, pushing hard can send you off a cliff. Why? Because you are reacting not responding, you have likely lost your center and you are basing your actions on emotion, without the balance of your mind.

The next time you find yourself pushing hard, take a moment to examine how you can handle what is happening to your best advantage.

 

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Resistance Hurts You The Most

Sometimes, you can think that by resisting something you are protecting yourself and standing up to others. How can that be true when your stance is rigid and oppositional? Resistance often distills down to avoidance – not facing something straight on.

Say someone is asking you to do something that you fear doing or do not want to do. You put your energy into resisting doing it. This can take many forms: conflict, discomfort, putting your head in the sand. How about, instead, you face the situation head-on and make a choice whether you will or will not do what is asked? In doing so, you resolve any concerns you have and do not have to deal with the energy drain involved in resistance.

Resistance is wasted time and does not serve you. Instead of resisting, move forward. Responding is much more effective than reacting. In resisting you are only hurting yourself.

 

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Subject To Flooding

Just as a flood in nature, certain things can overtake you as you work and live. What aspects of your life and work are “subject to flooding”? What is it that can upset the balance of your life? What can overwhelm you? What is it that you cannot “take”?

Stay aware of the areas of your life and work that may be subject to flooding. Know what can create this flooding for you. Mitigate the effects flooding can have on you in order to keep your life and work flowing in a positive manner.

 

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What Do You Care About?

What you care about offers valuable clues to a fulfilling and successful career. Often, what you care about is not readily considered when making career decisions or choices. It should be! Caring about something usually correlates with your taking it seriously, cherishing it and wanting it in your life.

What do you care about? Are those things currently present in your career to motivate high performance and skill? Make an evaluation of the things you care about and whether they are present in your work life. Go from there in getting more of what you care about into your work or finding places where what you care about is present and valued.

 

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What’s In Your Control?

You know from experience that there are things you can control and things that you cannot. Still, you can find yourself trying futilely to control something that is beyond your reach. Yes, it is difficult to acknowledge that you cannot influence a situation, but thinking that you have control when you do not, can really mess things up. When you attempt to exert control that you do not have, it’s like trying to get a stuck car out of the sand by gunning the motor. It only spins your wheels and gets you deeper in.

How do you discern the level of control you have in a situation? Get good at doing so. Then, you can create a winning strategy that recognizes reality and has you making moves that matter.

 

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Enough Already!

It is late at night and I am down to the line in writing this blog post. It has to be done, so here I am. It has been a packed week and my sentiment is “enough, already”.

What do you do when you hit this place? Do you push on or give it up? Of course, different circumstances create different responses. Maintaining your balance, realizing sometimes you have to give an extra push and knowing your limits help you cope. Here’s hoping you do not reach this place too often. And now my post is done. ☺

 

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The Power In Allowing

So many times you can find yourself fighting reality. You don’t like the way things are, so you resist. Doing so does not serve you. It expends your energy and takes your time, usually with little result. Alternatively, you can find the power in allowing.

Allowing refers to using the way things are as your starting point. It does not mean that you accept the way things are; just that you see things clearly and go from there. Doing so gets rid of any illusions and lets you address a situation as it is. Then, you are better able to protect your interests and achieve your desired result.

 

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More Of That!

What jazzes you and makes you happy? Are those things present in your work life? True, there are some separations that must exist between life and work. However, following a path for your career that includes what makes you happy can bring you significant benefits. Too often, our society sends messages that we are not meant to be happy at work. In reality, being happy with your work leads to productivity, success, purpose and fulfillment.

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