You Have Today – 2

In my last blog post, I looked at being fully present in the moment, as you face a challenge. There is another useful aspect to being present – you can consciously decide how you will spend each day. Doing this requires your focus – on what is important, your expectations, your commitments and how much time you have.

What if, each morning you ask yourself what you are going to do with the day ahead of you? It could lead to higher productivity, fulfillment and motivation.

 

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You Have Today

Challenges are part of life. When you find yourself falling back into the past or drifting into the future, as you face a challenge, remember that today is the best that you have. Looking at a challenge from the present moment allows you to see where you are right now and what is available to you. Sure, you can benefit from looking backward or forward, but doing so can be a quicksand that doesn’t provide answers or get you very far. Don’t stay too long.

Next time you face a challenge, remember that you have today to do what’s needed to turn things around.

 

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Anxiety

More and more, I am encountering discussions about anxiety in both my coaching and my personal life. What is going on? Are we changing in some way and adjusting to the change?

Are the speed and uncertainty of our world affecting many and inducing anxiety? We should stay aware of the presence of anxiety in both ourselves and in others. It is an indicator that something needs attention. When anxiety shows up, examine if you are living your life in alignment with your values, if time is getting the better of you or if something is wanting your attention.

Anxiety does not serve you or others. It may take time and effort to deal with, but will be totally worth your while. Best to face it and find your way through.

 

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A Month Of Truth

Last week, I was at lunch with a group of women writers. We were discussing the state of the world and one woman said “Wouldn’t it be great if we had one month where no one could tell a lie?”

A month of truth! I was struck by her statement and thought about the workplace. Can you imagine a month in your organization where this was done? Everyone could speak only the truth. What do you think would ensue?

It certainly is a worthwhile exercise to consider this. It may uncover “truths” about your work that you already know and can act on. Imagine a month of truth at your work. Consider what and who might be different. How would you be different? Take what you learn and apply it. It can only make things better.

 

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Humility

Humility – The state or quality of being humble; freedom from pride and arrogance.

How does humility factor into your life and work? Some see humility as a weakness. Others see it as a strength. Personally, I see it as a strength, if viewed as freedom from pride and arrogance. I recently read a novel where a lead character would often bow his head as a sign of respect for another or acknowledging something that was said. I found power in that image.

Humility does not preclude you from having confidence. It is about how you present yourself to the world. You can allow your best attributes to shine for you, rather than push them on others. You can realize that everyone has value, including you.

How did we get to a place where humility is seen as a weakness, where if you are not constantly promoting yourself you are losing out? Try on some humility and see if it actually empowers and enlivens you.

 

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The Many Faces Of Control

Do you strive to be “in control”? Many people do. It strikes me how many varying perspectives there are regarding what being in control means. Some go overboard, thinking they must control every aspect of their environment – an almost impossible thing to do. Others are selective and want to control only certain aspects of their work and lives. Some aim to control themselves, thinking that is the only true control they have. Some try to control others, which often causes harm.

How about you? What must you control in your work and life? If you “lose control” is it catastrophic? How realistic is your perspective on what you can and cannot control?

Control is fine, when you are you able to do so. Having control can also be an illusion. Know how to discern this and your life will be “under control” in the best way possible.

 

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Emotional Labor?

A recent BBC Capital article, How Faking Your Feelings At Work Can Be Damaging,  introduced me to the concept of emotional labor. The term emotional labor refers to the work you do to regulate your emotions to create “a publicly visible facial and bodily display within the workplace”.

Whoa! Do you find yourself doing this often? The article goes on to say that studies have found that burnout can relate more closely to how employees manage their emotions during interactions, rather than the volume of interactions themselves. Those who report regularly having to display emotions at work that conflict with their own feelings are more likely to experience emotional exhaustion.

Now you have emotional labor to add to all the other labors work asks of you. It is worth paying attention to. Emotional labor can clearly have a negative impact on your life balance and fulfillment at work.

I say this both lightly as well as seriously – perhaps your organization should pay you for the emotional labor involved in your work!

 

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Critical Moments

How do you respond at critical moments? Your answer to this question can make the difference between success and failure. In many cases, critical moments can stun you or bring you out of balance, so you want your response to be a good one.

How you handle critical moments is a personal thing. You can find the way that is best for you. Do you jump right into action? Do you take a moment to consider what to do? Do you center to make sure that you do not panic?

Take a moment to think about your response at critical moments. These moments matter and you want to handle them well.

 

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Chunking It Down

In my training at The Coaches Training Institute, they introduced a concept called “Chunking It Down”. It is a very effective way of managing, organizing and dealing with overwhelm. Chunking it down is simple – you take a task that has multiple parts and break it down into small, actionable steps.

Anything you are working on now that could benefit from chunking it down? Give it a try. It keeps you moving and is great for reducing stress.

 

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Balancing

How often do you look at the actual act of balancing your life? You may know when your life is balanced, when it is not and the level of balance you want to achieve. That’s good. From there, how do you, day-to-day, maintain that balance?

Balancing is a “present moment” thing. It asks your awareness of when you are slipping out of balance, your knowing how to regain your balance and your agility in dealing with time. Think of a situation when maintaining your balance was very challenging. It may have been a time when you were facing competing demands, had too much to get done in the time you had or were experiencing work – personal life tensions. What did you do? Were you able to maintain balance or did things go awry?

Focusing on the act or art of balancing serves you. How do you best maintain your balance on a day-to-day basis? What do you do to regain your balance if it is lost? Develop your skill for balancing and you’ll soon find yourself mastering it.

 

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