Numb: 1. Deprived of the power to feel or move normally 2. Emotionally unresponsive; indifferent
Sometimes, experiencing disappointing results or having continually bad interactions can cause you to back away. At first, this is an understandable protective mechanism. However, remaining in a backed – off place can negatively affect your outlook and performance.
Say that you and our team have received repeated criticism from a senior manager. Your presentations in staff meetings are often disparaged without merit and your suggestions are dismissed. Something’s wrong when this happens. There could be many reasons: it could be the senior manager’s personality or style, what you are offering could have flaws, or the senior manager could think he or she is “helping” you and your team by being “tough”. If your initial response is to back away, don’t let too much time pass before you begin to address it. Observe carefully and strategize how to approach the senior manager or otherwise address the situation.
Or, say you have a team member reporting to you that you are clashing with. Undoubtedly, this is affecting the rest of your team and is slowing you all down. In addition, your performance has to be affected – both yours and the team’s. Once you create some distance from the situation, devise a strategy to deal effectively with the team member. Be open to dialogue with them, changing what you can and being clear with them that the situation has to improve.
When you avoid or fail to deal with a situation, you gradually become numb. You fail to see the impacts the situation is creating and you allow them to fester and grow. It may become an “emperor has no clothes” situation, where everyone sees it but you. Inevitably, it will come around again in a much bigger way – such that you cannot ignore it any longer – possibly bringing with it consequences you would rather not have.
Do not become numb. Stay vital, in communication, alert and proactive. Numb will never do you any long-lasting good.
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