Big change can sometimes leave you feeling uncertain and unsettled. Your once familiar environment is looking different these days. New things are being asked of you, in order to keep your life and work going. Here are some tips on how to deal with feeling disoriented:
• Spend some time looking around and identify the major changes that have occurred.
• Check in on your emotional and mental states. What is going on there?
• Identify what you can do now to feel more comfortable with the changes that have occurred.
• Eventually, find acceptance of the world you are living in now. (You have no choice)
• Start to identify ways you can protect yourself and also thrive in your new environment.
Trying to turn back is futile. Moving forward helps you adjust to and accept the changes that have occurred.
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We’re in a different space now. All of us are adjusting. In times of change, it is good to check in with yourself periodically to assess how you are doing. Why? Because there are no routines or set paths. What was is not always relevant. Stress and anxiety are present.
Answer a few questions. What is important to you now in your life and work? What is in your best interest to do? What are the things that can dishearten or stress you? What makes you feel better? What must you get done? Once you have these answers, you can create a way to check in with yourself periodically and when you find yourself losing your center. After your check in, you can course-correct and get yourself back to center.
Checking in will help you set a new path that works for you and move you forward in the direction you want to go.
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As things change around you, re-centering is called for. The center you had no longer applies. What can you do? Look around. What are the elements and energies of your life and work now? What is called for to settle into this new world you find yourself in?
Take some time to reassess your circumstances. Use your brain to find what you need to regain your center. Nurture yourself. Don’t get stuck or move into fear. There is no need for that. You have agency. You are strong. You can get yourself through this.
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It happens. Sometimes energy and enthusiasm are in high supply and other times they are nowhere to be found. When you feel yourself losing your energy and enthusiasm, do your best to identify why it is happening. There are many possibilities: physically you are feeling low energy; what you are doing is draining your energy and enthusiasm; you just need a break to restore yourself; you are allowing your mind to tie you in knots; something is draining you emotionally or you just don’t like what you are doing.
When you allow yourself to lose steam, the slowing down you will experience is anything but advantageous for you. Breaks and rest restore you. Losing steam can run you off the tracks.
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Fun is as much a part of balance as sleep is. Giving fun priority in your life has all kinds of benefits – relaxation, enjoyment, release of stress and joy.
What do you do for fun? If your answer is not easy to come by or you have not had fun in awhile, create a fun challenge. For a period of a month, do at least one thing a week that is major fun for you. When you finish the challenge you will find yourself refreshed, you’ll know what it is that brings you fun and your outlook on life will brighten!
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There are points in life when profound change is the only way to go. Take a look at your life now. Is profound change warranted in order to assure a fulfilling life or career in your future? It may be, if you have reached a level of dissatisfaction, pain, upset or futility that is hard to take.
When you reach such a point, don’t turn away. On the other side of profound change is often freedom and happiness that you cannot get by staying where you are. Change is part of life and cannot be avoided. If profound change is called for, make it happen.
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Is your career fulfilling you? If not, what do you think is missing from it?
Our culture and society have a way of convincing you that career fulfillment is unattainable. You have to settle for what you can get. That is not true. Life holds the possibility of happiness and fulfillment in all that you do. It may take work and planning, but fulfillment can be yours.
Do you have the courage to create the career you dream of? What can you do today towards making your career a wow?
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For many years, I studied personal growth and development with Lynn Andrews. One concept she taught was that of surrender versus sacrifice. The idea was that when an uncomfortable situation arose, you had choice regarding how to respond to it. Surrender, in this context, was accepting how things were and then choosing a response. Sacrifice was responding by harming yourself in some way – giving up on goals, not taking care of yourself, giving your power over to someone.
Say, you are in a circumstance where someone is saying you must do something that you do not want to do. First, look honestly at what is happening. Where do you have control and where do you not have control? If there are aspects of the situation where you have no control – surrender to them. If you have control, maintain it and avoid sacrificing yourself.
Can you see the power in surrender? It is being in the present moment and acting realistically. Once you surrender, you are fully present and can decide where to go from there.
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You know that often there is more to a story than what appears on the surface. Good to keep this in mind as you navigate your career. Say you are dealing with a work culture of hidden agendas on the part of managers in an organization. The organization’s values and mission say one thing, but day-to-day you experience something very different. You can stay with the outwardly stated values and mission or look deeper at what the actions of management tell you about their true values and mission.
In many cases, you do not know what is happening if you do not explore the shadow side. You can do so with keen observation, judging by actions, not words and knowing that much lies below the surface. Is there a shadow side at your place of work?
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Towards the end of 2019, a friend said to me that 2020 was going to be his year of reaching out. He was naming his year and setting a powerful intention.
By naming your year, you too can set a powerful intention to refocus on as 2020 progresses.
What do you want this new year of 2020 to be for you?
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