Humility

Humility – The state or quality of being humble; freedom from pride and arrogance.

How does humility factor into your life and work? Some see humility as a weakness. Others see it as a strength. Personally, I see it as a strength, if viewed as freedom from pride and arrogance. I recently read a novel where a lead character would often bow his head as a sign of respect for another or acknowledging something that was said. I found power in that image.

Humility does not preclude you from having confidence. It is about how you present yourself to the world. You can allow your best attributes to shine for you, rather than push them on others. You can realize that everyone has value, including you.

How did we get to a place where humility is seen as a weakness, where if you are not constantly promoting yourself you are losing out? Try on some humility and see if it actually empowers and enlivens you.

 

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The Many Faces Of Control

Do you strive to be “in control”? Many people do. It strikes me how many varying perspectives there are regarding what being in control means. Some go overboard, thinking they must control every aspect of their environment – an almost impossible thing to do. Others are selective and want to control only certain aspects of their work and lives. Some aim to control themselves, thinking that is the only true control they have. Some try to control others, which often causes harm.

How about you? What must you control in your work and life? If you “lose control” is it catastrophic? How realistic is your perspective on what you can and cannot control?

Control is fine, when you are you able to do so. Having control can also be an illusion. Know how to discern this and your life will be “under control” in the best way possible.

 

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Emotional Labor?

A recent BBC Capital article, How Faking Your Feelings At Work Can Be Damaging,  introduced me to the concept of emotional labor. The term emotional labor refers to the work you do to regulate your emotions to create “a publicly visible facial and bodily display within the workplace”.

Whoa! Do you find yourself doing this often? The article goes on to say that studies have found that burnout can relate more closely to how employees manage their emotions during interactions, rather than the volume of interactions themselves. Those who report regularly having to display emotions at work that conflict with their own feelings are more likely to experience emotional exhaustion.

Now you have emotional labor to add to all the other labors work asks of you. It is worth paying attention to. Emotional labor can clearly have a negative impact on your life balance and fulfillment at work.

I say this both lightly as well as seriously – perhaps your organization should pay you for the emotional labor involved in your work!

 

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Balancing

How often do you look at the actual act of balancing your life? You may know when your life is balanced, when it is not and the level of balance you want to achieve. That’s good. From there, how do you, day-to-day, maintain that balance?

Balancing is a “present moment” thing. It asks your awareness of when you are slipping out of balance, your knowing how to regain your balance and your agility in dealing with time. Think of a situation when maintaining your balance was very challenging. It may have been a time when you were facing competing demands, had too much to get done in the time you had or were experiencing work – personal life tensions. What did you do? Were you able to maintain balance or did things go awry?

Focusing on the act or art of balancing serves you. How do you best maintain your balance on a day-to-day basis? What do you do to regain your balance if it is lost? Develop your skill for balancing and you’ll soon find yourself mastering it.

 

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What Is Wellness For You?

It could be getting enough rest and relaxation or running a marathon. What is wellness for you? To answer this question, look comprehensively at the physical, mental and emotional aspects of your life. Wellness is personal.

What do you need to feel a sense of wellness? It is worth your time to answer this question and make room in your life for the things you identify. Doing this, increases your productivity, fulfillment and happiness. Get on your road to wellness and reap the benefits.

 

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Despite The Pull

Sometimes, it takes extra effort to keep things going. It may be that your motivation is low, you are not feeling well or something or someone outside you is making things difficult. How do you keep going, despite the pull?

First, assess whether what you are trying to do is important for you to get done. If it is, look next at whether you have what you need to keep going. If you do, find ways to increase your motivation – perhaps by rewarding yourself or rethinking your reluctance. If you don’t, get what you need.

When you feel a pull or drag on something you are doing, recognize that it is there and minimize its ability to take you off course. Focus moves you forward. Delay holds you back and doesn’t serve you.

 

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The Power of “Pivoting”

There is a concept called pivoting that encourages you to move from a negative attitude to a positive one. Do you know how to pivot? Consider a time when you were in a bad or negative mood and you successfully got out of it. How did you do it?

I pivot by quickly getting to my center, becoming quiet and observing what put me in a negative state. Then, I choose what I want to do next. In some cases, my mood is deep, so I find music that helps me get into a positive state, take a break from a situation or find positive ways to view what is happening. I always, however, acknowledge and validate how I feel before pivoting.

The best pivoting techniques are often an individual choice. Here are some that I have seen people use:

• Having a mantra or affirmation that changes perspective when needed

• Acknowledging that “this too shall pass”

• Finding something that creates happiness (quickly)

• Deciding firmly how to deal with a negative situation, speak truth about it and move on

• Knowing how to center quickly, in order to gain perspective

• Getting out of a long-term situation that has too much negativity

Pivoting serves you and keeps you at your best. Build your skill at pivoting and the view you see will be a good one!

 

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Who Cares?

Do you ever find yourself at work saying, “Who cares?” It can be a defense mechanism when you are angry, upset, disappointed or fearful. Other times, it is a statement of truth – you are detached and do not care about a situation.

This is worth paying attention to. Detachment and apathy about your work are warning signals that it may be time for a change. Work is best when engaged in. How are you feeling presently about your work? Are you saying “ Who Cares?” or “I Care!”?

 

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Getting Away And Your Perspective

Vacations and times spent away from work are always helpful to refresh your perspective on things. You don’t have to wait for them, however. There are other ways to change your perspective by getting away. Here are some of them:

• Spend a day out in the “field” (whatever that may be for your work) observing and interacting

• Solicit feedback and opinions from people around you, as well as from people you are not as closely involved with

• Find a completely new way to look at a situation and see if it fits

• Give some open contemplation time to difficult issues and see what your intuition tells you

• Physically get away from your normal work environment for short periods of time

Refreshing your perspective feeds clear thinking, creativity and momentum. Doing it often serves you.

 

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