In times of uncertainty, it is natural to crave certainty. The mind is very good at giving you a sense of safety that often is a false one. The unknown is the unknown and right now the world is engulfed in it.
Have you convinced yourself that something is going to happen that will eradicate your present discomfort with uncertainty? Perhaps that you’ll be back working in your office soon and things will be as they were, your children will be back at school for good or there will be a vaccine next month. Yes, it’s helpful to have a sense of hope that what you want will happen; however certainty is an illusion in times like these.
As challenging as it is, getting comfortable with uncertainty is the best thing you can do right now. Stay in the present moment, find ways to cope and instead of waiting, be the best you can be in these times.
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The world has changed. We are in a new reality. To come to acceptance, start from the present. Look around at your world to what has changed and what is the same. Identify what you need to live in this world and thrive. If you are having trouble accepting the changes, identify the problem areas and focus on ways to make them easier to accept. For example, if you are working at home and do not like it, look for positives in it, as well as ways to minimize any negative effects.
Some things you may not be able to accept outright, such as the illness or death of a loved one or losing a job. In that case, acceptance comes in coping with what has happened, doing what you can to stay out of fear and allowing your feelings to express themselves. Acceptance will allow you to move on eventually. Resistance keeps you stuck.
Acceptance is freeing and is a process. Once you start moving towards acceptance, life will get better.
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Big change can sometimes leave you feeling uncertain and unsettled. Your once familiar environment is looking different these days. New things are being asked of you, in order to keep your life and work going. Here are some tips on how to deal with feeling disoriented:
• Spend some time looking around and identify the major changes that have occurred.
• Check in on your emotional and mental states. What is going on there?
• Identify what you can do now to feel more comfortable with the changes that have occurred.
• Eventually, find acceptance of the world you are living in now. (You have no choice)
• Start to identify ways you can protect yourself and also thrive in your new environment.
Trying to turn back is futile. Moving forward helps you adjust to and accept the changes that have occurred.
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