Your skill as a communicator has a lot to do with understanding what goes on beneath the surface of an interaction you have with another person. Each person has hidden factors – emotions, fears, conditionings, negative experiences – that affect their interactions with others, as do you. These hidden factors can have a major impact on how you interact.
It may not be possible to readily identify these hidden factors in another. However, your awareness that they exist creates a “knowing” that goes beyond the surficial aspects of an interaction, helping you to stay away from negativity or friction. Try some observing of your communications with others. See if you can develop awareness of any hidden factors that are present. Examine the hidden factors that affect your interactions with certain people. In doing so, you will develop an awareness that you did not have before and your communication skills will sharpen and grow.
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In your life’s journey, there is a natural flow of releasing and receiving. It is like the motion of the tides. For the new to come in, the old must be released. In honoring this principle, you can keep your life fresh and vital. You know that life is not static; you are meant to be in motion and to grow. As you look at 2019, do you see any elements of your life and work that you are ready to let go of, in order to make room for the new?
Take a moment now to think of 3 elements of your life and work that no longer serve you. What is needed in order to let them go? Always honor all parts of your life and work. They served their purpose and you. Once you do let go, you will have a space ready for new and wonderful elements to enter your life in 2020!
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Centering fully in the present moment is a powerful way to assure your holidays are enjoyable and to minimize your stress. There is so much pulling on you – social invites, work, family and friends, preparation and increased demands on your time and your emotions. Here are a few ways to center and keep your holidays fun and rewarding.
1. Promise yourself alone time at the beginning and end of each day to regroup and look ahead.
2. Keep your focus on the present moment; limit any worrying about the past or what’s to come.
3. Build fun into every day to balance the demands on you. Real fun.
4. Say no when you have to – graciously and with kindness. Time is finite.
5. Know that the holidays will pass and their demands will go away, as a new year begins.
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In order to keep up, you may sometimes keep your head down and your focus narrow. It’s a good strategy; however, it can cause you to miss seeing other things that are within your reach. Since you do not control what comes your way, you can benefit from developing an ability to identify opportunities when they show up.
What kind of opportunities are you looking for? Advancement within your organization or elsewhere? Developing a new skill? Fostering your creativity or leadership ability? Whatever you desire, find a way to keep your sights open for them. You might identify people, places or situations where the kind of opportunities you are looking for arise. You may let others know what you are looking for, so that they can keep an eye out too.
Good opportunities abound for everyone. Make sure to keep your eyes open for them.
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Every once in a while it is good to let go of what no longer serves you. Doing so frees you of an energy drain and makes room for the new.
Today, what have you had enough of? Are you ready to let it go?
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You matter – to yourself, the people close to you and those you work with. You deserve to be at your best and happy. Most of the time whether you are at your best and happy is up to you, not others. You are the one to make it so.
How are you doing today – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually? Any tweaks you need to make? Any people or situations bringing you down? Can you say things are as good as they can be?
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Over a lifetime, you have formed a point of view about your work. That point of view becomes a kind of lens that you view your experiences through. Is your lens optimistic, pessimistic, fearful, hopeful, loving, calculating, mind-centered or emotion-centered?
Best to be aware of the nature of your lens and any biases it has. What kind of lens do you look though? What contributed to it? When you gain awareness of the lens you look through, you can then decide how well it’s working and if any adjustments are called for.
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The secret to distinguishing yourself lies in who you are – your unique traits, talents and learned skills. Often people think they must conform in order to succeed. They fit within a system and fully adopt its processes and approaches. A degree of that is warranted. However, to do your best work, it has to come from you.
How do you make something yours? Let’s say you are given a project to lead. You can follow accepted procedures and do fine. If you bring your unique vision to the project, you have the opportunity to stand out among the crowd. What can you add that will make results better? What do you bring to the work that no one else can? Making a project yours leads you to success and fulfillment!
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You may not link gratitude and work together, but gratitude has its place there. Gratitude expands your mind and heart and often lifts you up. You may already see the role of gratitude in your personal life. You can benefit from gratitude at work, as well.
What are three things you are grateful for in your current work? Try each day to identify one thing at work you are grateful for and see what happens.
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Self-confidence is a major factor in your career success. Maintaining your self-confidence asks for your attention and care. This is not a low maintenance endeavor.
How is your self-confidence at this moment? High? Low? In-between? What factors are affecting your present level of self-confidence? Is any maintenance needed?
There are many ways to maintain and boost your self- confidence. Here are a few: make note of and acknowledge your accomplishments, let compliments you receive sink in, know what qualities you want to have and develop them, stretch yourself to grow new skills and abilities and believe in yourself, even when others are cutting you down.
Self-confidence is yours to have when you take the time to cultivate and maintain it.
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