Despite wishes to go back to how things were before the pandemic, it is pretty clear now that the world is in a time of significant change. In the near future, you may go back to a new workplace, new ways of communicating and new forms of socializing. In the far future, it is anyone’s guess what the world will be.
You have a choice: trying to recapture what is gone or preparing for a future that fulfills you. In crises, along with challenges come opportunities. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to get started in creating the future you want to live:
• What is gone from your life that will not return?
• What is new in your life that feels right?
• What can you do with the time you have now to pursue dreams that there never was time for before?
• How have your values changed?
• What will make your future life a fulfilling one?
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There is a lot of upheaval in the world now leaving room for creativity and innovation. You have an opportunity to seize the moment and do something bold. Many of the strictures of our recent past are gone – not by choice but because of the nature of the changes we are experiencing.
Change brings openings. What could you do now that you’ve wanted to do in the past, but conditions did not allow for it? What dream can you see an opening for?
Go ahead, surprise them!
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The world has changed. We are in a new reality. To come to acceptance, start from the present. Look around at your world to what has changed and what is the same. Identify what you need to live in this world and thrive. If you are having trouble accepting the changes, identify the problem areas and focus on ways to make them easier to accept. For example, if you are working at home and do not like it, look for positives in it, as well as ways to minimize any negative effects.
Some things you may not be able to accept outright, such as the illness or death of a loved one or losing a job. In that case, acceptance comes in coping with what has happened, doing what you can to stay out of fear and allowing your feelings to express themselves. Acceptance will allow you to move on eventually. Resistance keeps you stuck.
Acceptance is freeing and is a process. Once you start moving towards acceptance, life will get better.
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Your point of view greatly influences the way you see the world around you. You have freedom to choose your point of view. Or, it can happen by default – the consequence of your experiences and reactions to those around you.
How do you tell the story of what the world, and you individually, are experiencing right now? Do your story and point of view come from a positive place, a fearful one, a hopeful one or a pessimistic one? Is there anything you would like to change?
You are the storyteller. Your point of view has high impact on your experience of life. Make sure it serves your interests and values.
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1. Take more breaks during the day
2. Let go of anything you can that is currently an energy drain
3. Identify the most significant changes you have experienced this month and adapt to them in positive ways
4. Bring three things into your work day that fuel you
5. Indulge yourself once a day
6. Define what balance is for you now
7. Keep your physical body in shape
8. Stay very aware of what is happening with your emotions and find ways to center them
9. Start a new creative project that excites you
10. Identify the opportunities you have now, that were not available to you at the beginning of the year
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The ability to discern where you expend your energy is critical now. If you are using all that you have to live and work, you don’t have extra energy for other people’s dramas or demands. You want to do what you need to do to take care of yourself and your loved ones, get your work done and be where you can do the most good.
Are others’ issues or demands encroaching on you or stressing you right now? If your answer is yes, take some time to evaluate what is happening and what you want to do about it. There are ways you can set boundaries without being aggressive or nasty. If you do not have time or energy to answer a demand or to do something, state that clearly and kindly to the people involved.
Knowing what to say no to and what to say yes to will help you maintain balance and function effectively in these times.
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We have been through a big change. Time now to begin aligning with this new reality. Look at where you are right now. What frequency are you tuned into? Is it one of bewilderment, fear, peace, upset, acclimation, anticipation, seeking or something else? Where do you want to be? Perhaps your answer is that you want to be back where you used to be; however that is no longer possible.
Anxiety and fear will lessen as you bring yourself into the present and figure out how you want to be in this reality. By taking in what is happening, you can choose how to tune yourself into a frequency that works best for you.
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We’re in a different space now. All of us are adjusting. In times of change, it is good to check in with yourself periodically to assess how you are doing. Why? Because there are no routines or set paths. What was is not always relevant. Stress and anxiety are present.
Answer a few questions. What is important to you now in your life and work? What is in your best interest to do? What are the things that can dishearten or stress you? What makes you feel better? What must you get done? Once you have these answers, you can create a way to check in with yourself periodically and when you find yourself losing your center. After your check in, you can course-correct and get yourself back to center.
Checking in will help you set a new path that works for you and move you forward in the direction you want to go.
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Every once in a while, you gotta do it – lighten your load by saying “no”. When your time and attention are maxed, there is no room for anything new. In addition, too much to do and focus on scatters your energy and resources.
So, what is one thing you can say “no” to today? Pick something related to your work that is taking up your time and space needlessly or is an energy drain. What you say “no” to can be a way of being or doing. You could say “no” to being inefficient or “no” to doing that extra task you are not required to do.
Go ahead – say “no”. Do you feel any lighter?
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There are points in life when profound change is the only way to go. Take a look at your life now. Is profound change warranted in order to assure a fulfilling life or career in your future? It may be, if you have reached a level of dissatisfaction, pain, upset or futility that is hard to take.
When you reach such a point, don’t turn away. On the other side of profound change is often freedom and happiness that you cannot get by staying where you are. Change is part of life and cannot be avoided. If profound change is called for, make it happen.
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