So many times you can find yourself fighting reality. You don’t like the way things are, so you resist. Doing so does not serve you. It expends your energy and takes your time, usually with little result. Alternatively, you can find the power in allowing.
Allowing refers to using the way things are as your starting point. It does not mean that you accept the way things are; just that you see things clearly and go from there. Doing so gets rid of any illusions and lets you address a situation as it is. Then, you are better able to protect your interests and achieve your desired result.
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Double-edged sword is a phrase I often heard as I grew up. Its meaning is that something has two sides to consider. Something that looks great could have a negative side. A course of action may have both positive and negative effects. Something has both advantages and disadvantages.
You don’t have to run away from a double-edged sword. Best, however, to develop the ability to see beyond one edge to the other. Cultivate discernment as you evaluate situations. Make sure you see the whole picture and don’t get caught by the glitter of one edge.
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Do you know your true voice? You may not speak your true voice in every encounter; however, there are some encounters where it is essential. Your true voice comes from within. It embodies your values, reflects your integrity, sets your boundaries and protects you.
Things can get sticky when you do not know or speak your true voice. Others can take advantage of or manipulate you. You can be forced into situations that do not honor your values or boundaries. If you have yet to find your true voice, here are some questions to answer that can get you started:
• What is non-negotiable in your life – things you will not do?
• What are your three most important values?
• What lines can people not cross with you?
Your true voice is the expression of you. Know it and your path will be illuminated, leading to a centered and fulfilling life.
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Over the years, I have come to realize that creativity is not something only some of us have. Sure, some have exceptional talents in what we call the creative arts such as dance, painting or music. However, the definition of creativity doesn’t have to stay within this narrow window. I have come to see creativity, in a wider frame, as each person’s unique self-expression.
Your creativity is within you, waiting to come out. It is uniquely yours. Clues lie in what you love to do and what excites you. I have seen people express their creativity in the way they care for and understand animals, in the excellence of their work, in the way they inspire others, in the way they think, in their “green thumb” in the garden, for example.
You are creative. Have you found your creative gifts? Do you share them with the world?
I did a Slideshare several years back titled “Everyone Is Creative”. You can see it here.
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It is natural to want smooth sailing in your life and work. You do what you can to keep it that way. To varying degrees, disturbance shows up and smooth sailing is disrupted. When this happens, you do what you can to get things going smoothly again.
Have you ever thought of disturbance as a positive thing? It can be. At work, disturbance can strengthen your skills, change your perspective in a positive way, help you see things you could not see before and rearrange things for the better.
Next time you experience a disturbance, make the most of it.
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Challenges are part of life. When you find yourself falling back into the past or drifting into the future, as you face a challenge, remember that today is the best that you have. Looking at a challenge from the present moment allows you to see where you are right now and what is available to you. Sure, you can benefit from looking backward or forward, but doing so can be a quicksand that doesn’t provide answers or get you very far. Don’t stay too long.
Next time you face a challenge, remember that you have today to do what’s needed to turn things around.
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More and more, I am encountering discussions about anxiety in both my coaching and my personal life. What is going on? Are we changing in some way and adjusting to the change?
Are the speed and uncertainty of our world affecting many and inducing anxiety? We should stay aware of the presence of anxiety in both ourselves and in others. It is an indicator that something needs attention. When anxiety shows up, examine if you are living your life in alignment with your values, if time is getting the better of you or if something is wanting your attention.
Anxiety does not serve you or others. It may take time and effort to deal with, but will be totally worth your while. Best to face it and find your way through.
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Last week, I was at lunch with a group of women writers. We were discussing the state of the world and one woman said “Wouldn’t it be great if we had one month where no one could tell a lie?”
A month of truth! I was struck by her statement and thought about the workplace. Can you imagine a month in your organization where this was done? Everyone could speak only the truth. What do you think would ensue?
It certainly is a worthwhile exercise to consider this. It may uncover “truths” about your work that you already know and can act on. Imagine a month of truth at your work. Consider what and who might be different. How would you be different? Take what you learn and apply it. It can only make things better.
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Humility – The state or quality of being humble; freedom from pride and arrogance.
How does humility factor into your life and work? Some see humility as a weakness. Others see it as a strength. Personally, I see it as a strength, if viewed as freedom from pride and arrogance. I recently read a novel where a lead character would often bow his head as a sign of respect for another or acknowledging something that was said. I found power in that image.
Humility does not preclude you from having confidence. It is about how you present yourself to the world. You can allow your best attributes to shine for you, rather than push them on others. You can realize that everyone has value, including you.
How did we get to a place where humility is seen as a weakness, where if you are not constantly promoting yourself you are losing out? Try on some humility and see if it actually empowers and enlivens you.
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Do you strive to be “in control”? Many people do. It strikes me how many varying perspectives there are regarding what being in control means. Some go overboard, thinking they must control every aspect of their environment – an almost impossible thing to do. Others are selective and want to control only certain aspects of their work and lives. Some aim to control themselves, thinking that is the only true control they have. Some try to control others, which often causes harm.
How about you? What must you control in your work and life? If you “lose control” is it catastrophic? How realistic is your perspective on what you can and cannot control?
Control is fine, when you are you able to do so. Having control can also be an illusion. Know how to discern this and your life will be “under control” in the best way possible.
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