Letting Yourself Be “Placed”

 

Are you looking  for a sense of security and knowing in the world? If you are, you can sometimes rush things by letting society tell you who you should be. Society certainly has life mapped out, if you want to take that path.

Letting someone or something else “place” you in the world doesn’t always work out. It can appear to be safe and certain, that’s true. However, your journey is meant to be walked by you; not someone else. When you walk your journey and make your own choices, there may be challenges, but you have a greater chance of reaching fulfillment in your life.

Chart your own path. Being true to yourself increases your chances of being “placed” in just the right place for you.

 

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Are You Comfortable Being Uncomfortable?

Oh, if life was a smooth ride without discomfort. Not! Your level of comfort with discomfort is a factor in your ability to cope and thrive in life and work. There are numerous reactions you can have to being uncomfortable – anxiety, fear and avoidance are a few.

There are benefits to developing a response to discomfort that serves you, rather than only reacting. This starts with facing your emotion of discomfort. Look it in the eye and acknowledge it. Then, break it down in pieces – what is going on? Decide what its cause is and what you can do about it. As you do this over time, being uncomfortable will start to lose its power. You may even get comfortable with being uncomfortable! ☺

 

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Stability

Although stability can be fleeting, it is still worthwhile to focus on creating it. Stability is a foundation – you know your values, you know the elements of your life, you know your strengths and weaknesses and you have goals and a sense of the direction you want to go in. True, all kinds of things can upset your stability. It is easier, however, to regain stability after an upset if you had it before the upset occurred.

Adding change or upset to chaos and lack of direction creates instability and can wreak havoc in your life and career.

Looking to assess your level of stability? Here are some questions to get you started:

• What are the elements of your life that you can count on?

• How secure do you feel in your current work/career?

• Do you trust your instincts?

• Have you any true assurances that what you have now will stay around for a while?

• How well have you prepared for recovering from a crisis (e.g. loss of a job)?

• Have you identified your key life values? Do you honor them daily?

• How comfortable are you in dealing with change?

“True stability results when presumed order and presumed disorder are balanced. A truly stable system expects the unexpected, is prepared to be disrupted, waits to be transformed.” – Tom Robbins

 

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Checking In On Chaos

There is a lot of chaos in the world right now. Values and norms are being upended daily. Whether you see the chaos as helpful or disconcerting, it is good to check in with yourself every once in awhile.

Why? Chaos has the ability to upend both you and your life when you don’t pay attention. Chaos also creates energy that you can use for constructive purposes, presenting you with an opportunity to change things for the better.

How is the chaos in our world affecting you, right now? What do you want to do in response to it?

 

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Subject To Flooding

Just as a flood in nature, certain things can overtake you as you work and live. What aspects of your life and work are “subject to flooding”? What is it that can upset the balance of your life? What can overwhelm you? What is it that you cannot “take”?

Stay aware of the areas of your life and work that may be subject to flooding. Know what can create this flooding for you. Mitigate the effects flooding can have on you in order to keep your life and work flowing in a positive manner.

 

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What’s In Your Control?

You know from experience that there are things you can control and things that you cannot. Still, you can find yourself trying futilely to control something that is beyond your reach. Yes, it is difficult to acknowledge that you cannot influence a situation, but thinking that you have control when you do not, can really mess things up. When you attempt to exert control that you do not have, it’s like trying to get a stuck car out of the sand by gunning the motor. It only spins your wheels and gets you deeper in.

How do you discern the level of control you have in a situation? Get good at doing so. Then, you can create a winning strategy that recognizes reality and has you making moves that matter.

 

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The Power In Allowing

So many times you can find yourself fighting reality. You don’t like the way things are, so you resist. Doing so does not serve you. It expends your energy and takes your time, usually with little result. Alternatively, you can find the power in allowing.

Allowing refers to using the way things are as your starting point. It does not mean that you accept the way things are; just that you see things clearly and go from there. Doing so gets rid of any illusions and lets you address a situation as it is. Then, you are better able to protect your interests and achieve your desired result.

 

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Double-Edged Sword

Double-edged sword is a phrase I often heard as I grew up. Its meaning is that something has two sides to consider. Something that looks great could have a negative side. A course of action may have both positive and negative effects. Something has both advantages and disadvantages.

You don’t have to run away from a double-edged sword. Best, however, to develop the ability to see beyond one edge to the other. Cultivate discernment as you evaluate situations. Make sure you see the whole picture and don’t get caught by the glitter of one edge.

 

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