As the holiday season approaches, allow yourself to be festive. Balance the challenges and disappointments of this year with joy. Create an intention to enjoy yourself throughout the holidays – better than you ever have before. Although there may be limitations and this year will be different than previous years, you can still find fun and laughter in new places. Be creative and intentional. Be kind to yourself. Have a good time!
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You are in a challenging time – and don’t have to be told so that is for sure. How are you doing?
It is understandable if you are feeling weary. A lot is being asked of you – to protect your health, rise to huge challenges as an essential worker, adjust to being alone or in a smaller community for large amounts of time, to see aspects of what used to be your normal life fall away.
If you are feeling weary, accept that it is okay to feel that way. Find ways to energize, as you can. In 2017 I wrote a blog post that may be helpful to you now: 10 Things To Do When You Are Feeling Weary.
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“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Life can become monotonous. If you want some variety in your life, create it. Try experimenting. Experiments hold some risk, yes, but are not permanent. They are short excursions into new territory. They let you try something out.
What is something you have wanted to bring into your life – perhaps a new approach, a new skill, a new business relationship? Create an experiment that lets you take a step closer to what you want. Your experiment could be putting yourself in a new situation, reaching out to someone or learning more about what you desire.
Go ahead, experiment! Doing so moves you forward and makes life interesting.
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Is there anything new in your life this year? If not, find something. “New” creates momentum, challenge, growth and discovery.
Your life and work can get stale, negatively affecting your morale, outlook and mood. Stay leading edge. Practice continuous improvement. “New” keeps you vital and alive.
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Are you looking for a sense of security and knowing in the world? If you are, you can sometimes rush things by letting society tell you who you should be. Society certainly has life mapped out, if you want to take that path.
Letting someone or something else “place” you in the world doesn’t always work out. It can appear to be safe and certain, that’s true. However, your journey is meant to be walked by you; not someone else. When you walk your journey and make your own choices, there may be challenges, but you have a greater chance of reaching fulfillment in your life.
Chart your own path. Being true to yourself increases your chances of being “placed” in just the right place for you.
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Expect: to consider probable or certain
Expectations are natural. Our experiences and attitudes lead us to a sense of what will occur in situations, before we actually encounter them. They can have an undue influence on how we engage in a situation, however. Have you had an experience where your expectations of a situation were proven wrong or got you into trouble?
The first step in dealing effectively with expectations is to be aware of them. How about taking a challenge to spend a day with no expectations? Of course, you may have some, but you consciously put them aside and enter situations in a neutral state of mind. This way, you are fully in the present moment and can act according to whatever the situation presents. It could be a powerful way to build awareness of your expectations. Are you game?
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Challenges are part of life. When you find yourself falling back into the past or drifting into the future, as you face a challenge, remember that today is the best that you have. Looking at a challenge from the present moment allows you to see where you are right now and what is available to you. Sure, you can benefit from looking backward or forward, but doing so can be a quicksand that doesn’t provide answers or get you very far. Don’t stay too long.
Next time you face a challenge, remember that you have today to do what’s needed to turn things around.
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Do you find yourself unchallenged by your work? Routine, lack of mental stimulation, or a sleepy organizational culture can lead to boredom. Sometimes, it is okay to be bored by your work. Perhaps your career is not a primary element of life balance for you. Perhaps there are other significant demands on your time and work offers some relief. Perhaps you have other interests that offer you the challenge you want and need. All this is fine. However, if you would rather not be bored at work, it is time to take action.
If your work bores you, then you are accepting boredom as part of your life. You do not have to. Here are some questions to ask yourself if you find yourself bored with your work and would rather this not be the case. Hopefully, they can point you in the direction of change.
• Are you bored because you do not have enough to do or because the activities you undertake at work are unchallenging?
• Do you sense that others around you are bored as well? Does your organization’s culture or the nature of its work tilt towards boring activities?
• Do you see any promise in stepping up and asking for a change in your responsibilities that can lead to being challenged by them?
• What would you love to do? What do you need to be challenged and fulfilled in your work?
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Some see retreat as a failure. Others see it as a strategic win. How do you view retreating?
Pulling away from something is not a failure in itself. It can be the best answer to a situation that is not working for you. Some have a hard and fast view of retreating – you can find many quotes that say “never retreat”. What if you realize you are going in a wrong direction? What if you are up against a no-win situation? Are you supposed to keep going until you drop, just for the sake of never giving up?
Not necessarily. You are supposed to make the best of every situation you are in. Sometimes, retreating is the best course. Temporarily retreating allows you to rethink and regroup. Retreating for good lets you put your energies to something that will pay off for you.
Deciding when to retreat is a serious undertaking. It requires your discernment and strategic skill. You do not need a ban on retreating. Instead, you need the ability to perceive when it is the right time to retreat.
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There are times when you are stretched. You may be taking on a new project, facing a challenge or reaching for the next level in your career. To get where you want to be, you may have to build yourself up.
Do you know what builds you up? Perhaps it is knowledge, support from others, staying in balance or having courage. The next time a challenge presents itself, know what builds you up, employ it and you will soar!
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