Expect: to consider probable or certain
Expectations are natural. Our experiences and attitudes lead us to a sense of what will occur in situations, before we actually encounter them. They can have an undue influence on how we engage in a situation, however. Have you had an experience where your expectations of a situation were proven wrong or got you into trouble?
The first step in dealing effectively with expectations is to be aware of them. How about taking a challenge to spend a day with no expectations? Of course, you may have some, but you consciously put them aside and enter situations in a neutral state of mind. This way, you are fully in the present moment and can act according to whatever the situation presents. It could be a powerful way to build awareness of your expectations. Are you game?
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Challenges are part of life. When you find yourself falling back into the past or drifting into the future, as you face a challenge, remember that today is the best that you have. Looking at a challenge from the present moment allows you to see where you are right now and what is available to you. Sure, you can benefit from looking backward or forward, but doing so can be a quicksand that doesn’t provide answers or get you very far. Don’t stay too long.
Next time you face a challenge, remember that you have today to do what’s needed to turn things around.
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Do you find yourself unchallenged by your work? Routine, lack of mental stimulation, or a sleepy organizational culture can lead to boredom. Sometimes, it is okay to be bored by your work. Perhaps your career is not a primary element of life balance for you. Perhaps there are other significant demands on your time and work offers some relief. Perhaps you have other interests that offer you the challenge you want and need. All this is fine. However, if you would rather not be bored at work, it is time to take action.
If your work bores you, then you are accepting boredom as part of your life. You do not have to. Here are some questions to ask yourself if you find yourself bored with your work and would rather this not be the case. Hopefully, they can point you in the direction of change.
• Are you bored because you do not have enough to do or because the activities you undertake at work are unchallenging?
• Do you sense that others around you are bored as well? Does your organization’s culture or the nature of its work tilt towards boring activities?
• Do you see any promise in stepping up and asking for a change in your responsibilities that can lead to being challenged by them?
• What would you love to do? What do you need to be challenged and fulfilled in your work?
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Some see retreat as a failure. Others see it as a strategic win. How do you view retreating?
Pulling away from something is not a failure in itself. It can be the best answer to a situation that is not working for you. Some have a hard and fast view of retreating – you can find many quotes that say “never retreat”. What if you realize you are going in a wrong direction? What if you are up against a no-win situation? Are you supposed to keep going until you drop, just for the sake of never giving up?
Not necessarily. You are supposed to make the best of every situation you are in. Sometimes, retreating is the best course. Temporarily retreating allows you to rethink and regroup. Retreating for good lets you put your energies to something that will pay off for you.
Deciding when to retreat is a serious undertaking. It requires your discernment and strategic skill. You do not need a ban on retreating. Instead, you need the ability to perceive when it is the right time to retreat.
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There are times when you are stretched. You may be taking on a new project, facing a challenge or reaching for the next level in your career. To get where you want to be, you may have to build yourself up.
Do you know what builds you up? Perhaps it is knowledge, support from others, staying in balance or having courage. The next time a challenge presents itself, know what builds you up, employ it and you will soar!
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Is there something you could do each day in August to create a positive transformation? What you do can be big or small, easy or difficult – what matters is that you transform an aspect of your life or work by taking one step toward the transformation every day this month.
You may, for example, want to be more organized in your work. Each day you could do something towards that aim – declutter, organize or change a perspective you have. By the end of the month, the result can be that you are there – much more organized than when you started the month. Or, you could focus on transforming your interrelationships at work, creating more balance in your life or building a specific skill.
Will you take this on? Vision the end of this month and how good you may feel having met this challenge. As you begin your challenge, feel free to e mail me and I will hold your intention and cheer you on. You can do this!
Sometimes it is not easy to say “yes”. Doing so may involve challenge, stretching, being uncomfortable or overcoming fear. In your career, a yes that involves these things can advance you by moving you out of your comfort zone into your “growth zone”.
How about saying yes more often to experiences that improve your skills and boost your career? Is there anything worth a “yes” in front of you right now?
A quickening is something that compels you to move faster. A quickening can be caused by many things – a person that challenges you, a sudden insight that motivates you, a disappointment that closes a door, an experience that compels you to move forward. You can say yes or no to a quickening. It is your choice. You can opt out of it or accept its challenge.
In my experience, quickenings are often positive occurrences even when they are uncomfortable at first. Have you experienced any quickenings in your life or career? How did they go? Learn to recognize quickenings and make the most of them.
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There are a variety of indicators that it is time to think something out again. Perhaps circumstances have changed, you have altered your perspective or something new is affecting a situation. Regrouping is simply addressing something from the present moment, rather than from the past or future, and deciding on a new course of action.
Ignore change at your peril. Regrouping is done easily – with your eyes open, brain engaged and senses alert. Are there any indicators that regrouping is called for in your life or work? Is something asking for your attention? Are you resisting acknowledging a change that has occurred? Regrouping puts you back in control and allows you move forward.
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Periodically challenging yourself builds your leadership skills, creativity and self-confidence. Here are some ways you can challenge yourself in the next month. Give it a try – you can do it!
1. Try a new technique in your managing.
2. Tackle something you are afraid of doing by taking one step forward.
3. Ask your team and co workers for an informal 360 performance review.
4. Speak your truth in a situation that matters to you.
5. Say no to something.
6. Observe yourself for a day and identify what needs changing.
7. Repair a worthwhile relationship that has been damaged.
8. Read a book that adds to your knowledge base about managing.
9. Commit to make one positive and radical change in your life by the end of the year.
10. Create something you never thought you could.
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