Do you ever get to a place where you feel boxed in and that you have no options? It’s not a pleasant place to be nor is it a place you have to be. You always have options, if you keep your mind open in challenging situations. Yes, they may not be the greatest set of choices; however you can always find a way out of a challenge.
If you are feeling boxed in, take a step back and assess the situation. Give yourself space to identify your options and choose the one that is best for you!
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Sometimes, situations get to a place where it is best for you to separate from them for a little while or possibly longer. Separation creates distance that can improve both your perspective and your handing of something. Separation brings you to yourself, away from the influence of others. The hubbub of the world and our surroundings can be detrimental at times. The next time you face a challenge, are feeling confused or just need a break, try separating yourself from whatever is happening. Hopefully, you will find it refreshes and rejuvenates you.
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Many things create new beginnings. What has created new beginnings in your life? Perhaps it was something going away, something new coming in, an ending, a disappointment, a dream that grows within you or a strong desire for change. Sometimes new beginnings are anticipated and sometimes they are unexpected.
When you face a new beginning, best to stay fully in the present moment so that you can deal with its reality. If it has surprised you, give yourself time to come up with a response. Bring your best to the situation and accept that you cannot go backward, only forward. Change is a constant in life. Make your new beginnings fun and productive.
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Many people use the seasons as markers for their lives and goals. It is not too long now until we are at summer’s end in the northern hemisphere and winter’s end in the southern hemisphere. How has this season been for you? Did you have any goals or intentions at the start of the season? How are you doing with them?
There is still time to look carefully at how you have moved forward this season. If you are happy with where you are, pat yourself on the back and challenge yourself to go a little further. If you are not where you wanted to be by now, get in gear – there is still time.
As the new season approaches, decide if you want to use it as a marker. You can set some goals and intentions for how you want the season to be and what you want to accomplish by season’s end. Get in sync with the seasons. My guess is you won’t be disappointed!
Crucible: a situation of severe trial, or in which different elements interact, leading to the creation of something new.
In the midst of challenging situations and times, do your thoughts turn to the possibility that a crucible is happening and will create something new? It could be helpful to do so. When you experience challenges, it is natural to focus on the difficulties you are experiencing – they are real. However, you benefit from developing the practice of looking at situations from various angles, crucibles being one of them. Doing so, allows you to open your mind to other possibilities and to weather crises more evenly.
Next time you face a severe challenge, try looking at the possibility that it is a crucible that will lead to something new.
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A coach once told me that life is not about one upward climb to an ultimate goal, but rather a continuous, repeating pattern of ups and downs. He was trying to help me see that challenges and smooth rides are a constant in my life and that I should learn how to ride them. At that time in my life I had just become a coach and was looking at the transition as having an ultimate destination of total success. Not! My coaching journey is an ongoing series of successes and challenges.
When you have an upward climb – a challenge, a setback or a disappointment – how do you look at it? It is not a final end and will not last forever. Best to learn how to weather ups and downs and to see them as a natural pattern in your life. That way, you can be present with them, know that they will not last forever and navigate them with a sense of ease.
“All careers go up and down like friendships, like marriages, like anything else, and you can’t bat a thousand all the time.” – Julie Andrews
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Do you ever find yourself caught in a labyrinth at work? Labyrinths involve intricate, difficult pathways, entrances and exits, dead ends, confusion and right and wrong turns. You can find yourself in a labyrinth when executing a difficult project, dealing with hidden agendas, stretching your skills to the max or facing unknown outcomes.
When in a labyrinth, your best strategy is to stay alert, operate fully in the present moment, employ your intelligence, be patient, keep your cool and move forward at a brisk pace. Life and work are such that sometimes a labyrinth stands between you and success. Learn to navigate a labyrinth well and it will not slow you down.
Persistence is hardest during challenging times. Challenges can come in many forms: uncertainty about the future, obstacles to your goals, setbacks, personal challenges that affect other aspects of your life or a lack of clarity regarding what to do next. Persistence is often the only way through.
Here are a few suggestions to help you garner the strength you need to persist in challenging times.
• Identify the nature of the challenges you face and carry this awareness in the decisions you make.
• “Up” your self-nurturing”. In challenging times, you need more self-care and joy.
• Remind yourself of why you want to go forward and face any challenges that arise,
• Believe in yourself and find allies who support you.
• Know that this too will pass and you will be better off having persisted.
Life is up and down and then up and down again. The only steadiness in life is found in realizing change is constant and developing what you need to persist through challenges that arise.
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All careers have a flow to them. Careers go through phases, as well as ups and downs. Sometimes, without your realizing it, your career can start to fade. By fading, I mean that your career starts losing momentum. There can be any number of reasons for careers fading: a decline in motivation, a person or situation presenting an obstacle, complacency, bewilderment, lack of interest, blindness, not knowing what to do to change a situation or fear.
What is the state of your career today? Is it bright and promising? Or is it beginning to fade? Do you need to pay some attention to your career, so that it maintains its momentum and employs all that you have to offer? Fading is dull and boring. Keep your career vital and you’ll find yourself fulfilled.
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Reality: the world or the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them.
Are your life and actions aligned with reality? You may say reality is a downer. It can be, but it is the best place to start from. Reality does not limit you or dictate your next steps. It just needs to be factored in, so that your choices come both from truth and the present moment.
Say that you are in what looks like a lose-lose situation at work. Do you pretend what is happening isn’t there? Or do you look carefully at the reality of what exists and find your way through it? I think the latter. When you align with reality, no matter how bad things are, you actually are in a very powerful place. Truth sets you free.
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