Say Goodbye To Your 2017 Tolerations

What did you tolerate in 2017 that you can do without in 2018? Tolerations are a key concept in the coaching profession. They may not stand out or get your attention readily, but you can be sure they are slowly draining your energy. A toleration may be something as simple as a messy office or something more complex, such as a promotion that never comes.

Start by identifying anything you tolerated in 2017 and make a commitment to eliminate it. Tolerations, once identified, are not difficult to eliminate. Set your intention and enjoy the freedom you gain in 2018 from letting tolerations go!

For more on tolerations, see my blog posts, Manager Tolerations  and Ten Manager Tolerations You Can Do Without.

 

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Change In Plans

It is the holidays and one thing that is sure to happen is your having to change course. Perhaps the office is understaffed or distracted by the holidays and work isn’t getting done. Or, you had everything under control to balance work and life and now there is just too much to do. The stress of it all can be challenging.

One good way to deal with the nature of the holidays is to look at disruptions as a change in plans. Acknowledge what is happening, get present and decide the best course for you. That way, change or missed expectations do not get the better of you. Total control is an illusion. Best to ride with what happens, adjust your expectations and make the best of it.

 

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Ready To Venture?

Venture – a risky or daring journey or undertaking.

The holidays are here. They can be a time of joy and pain, connection and disconnection, reaching and hiding and hope and discouragement. Within their energy, conditions may be right for you to “venture”. You can ride on the wings of positivity or pick yourself up from being down.

What do you dream of? What has held you back from pursuing that dream? Are you ready to venture closer to that dream? You may encounter uncertainty. It may take some time. That’s okay. Get started on your venture and by the time the holidays are here in 2018, bet you’ll be in a whole new place!

 

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When It Keeps On Coming

In many arenas now, the change and chaos never seem to stop. At times, they come at you rapid-fire. The challenge is that you cannot control what is happening. However, you can control yourself and your response to it all. In work and other areas of life, what do you do when it keeps on coming?

To start, you can pull yourself out of the fray for a while. You can discriminate on your sources of information. You can be aware of when things get to be too much and take appropriate action. You can find a context for it all, so it does not seem inexplicable. You can take action, if you want to be part of a solution. When it keeps on coming, take care of yourself. Find a way to stay standing, until it passes.

 

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What’s Repeating?

Observing what is occurring in your life can yield results. Put yourself in a place of witness. Is there anything that has been repeating in your life that you would like to be gone? Perhaps you keep encountering a certain type of difficult personality, you keep getting assigned projects that do not reflect your strengths, you find yourself disappointed or discouraged often or you cannot get where you want to go, no matter what you do.

When things are repeating in your life, something may be asking for your attention. Ask yourself why these repeats are happening, what you are doing to contribute to them and what can you do to change the situation. Often, by addressing repeats, they will soon be gone. It is when they are not noticed, or they are ignored, that they stay around.

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Using A Change Of Season As A Marker

In the northern hemisphere, spring is here. In the southern hemisphere, it is autumn. Seasons are clear markers of change in our lives. How can you use this change of season to your advantage? Here are a few questions to get you started:

• Is there a change you have wanted to make that you can get started on now?

• Is there something in your life or work that you want to let go of?

• Is there something you want to bring into your life or work that you can get started on now?

• What does this change in season mean or represent to you?

Using a change in season as a marker is a way to keep your life and career moving forward. Make the most of this change in season to transform your life and work in the same way nature transforms itself each season.

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Starting Over

At various times in life, you can find yourself starting over. It may be of your own choosing, accompanied by excitement for the change or it may be not of your choosing, accompanied by some fear or unease. Whatever the situation, starting over is starting over and it is best to make the most of it.

Here are a few ways to approach a situation where you are starting over:

• Identify both the promise and the peril of your situation in a realistic manner so that your perspective is grounded and factual.

• Decide what you need to begin – Support? New skills? A certain attitude? Allies?

• Have a plan.

• Keep your mind open and observe the realities of your new situation.

• Accept that there is an element of the unknown in starting over.

• Do your best and strive for excellence in whatever you do.

“What’s so fascinating and frustrating and great about life is that you’re constantly starting over, all the time, and I love that.” – Billy Crystal

 

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Markers

Do you take notice of the markers in your work? Markers are events or major insights that stand out in your career. Examples of markers may be: a change in the management you report to, reaching a milestone goal in your work, an outstanding achievement, a failure that has impact, a turning point in your thinking or an important change.

Why take notice of markers? They focus you on what is happening and keep you conscious of your path forward. They also allow you to celebrate accomplishments, to be aware of the impacts of change and to learn from disappointments.

Are any markers visible to you now, or visible ahead?

 

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Are You Sitting On The Sidelines?

sidelinesdpropppixabaySometimes it is hard to jump right in. You may have stepped back to the sidelines of your career for a good reason at one time – a bad experience, fear, need for a rest or confusion about your next step. Then, it got comfortable being there.

The problem is that you cannot move forward from the sidelines. You must act. At a certain point your career starts to go backwards without action. In order to change things, you can take a leap or a small step. Either will get you moving.

Being on the sidelines can get boring and really, it gets you nowhere. If you find yourself on the sidelines, do whatever you can to get moving again. Great things await you!

 

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Staying Too Long

couchcondesignpixabayUsually, you know if you have stayed too long in a place or situation. It doesn’t feel good, but you can’t get yourself moving. Perhaps you don’t know where to go, don’t like going outside of your comfort zone or have fear around your next step. As uncomfortable as it may be, it is in your best interest to get moving. Staying too long has negative consequences. Things can get worse. You can get increasingly frustrated or worried. You can lose control and get pushed out.

Once you have recognized that you have stayed too long, start looking forward. The past is over. Your world has changed. Create a new chapter that will bring you happiness and fulfillment. You can do it.

 

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