Quandry: a state of perplexity or uncertainty over what to do in a difficult situation.
Sometimes, the path ahead of you is not clear. Choices are needed. When you are in a quandry, best to face head-on the choices you have to make. They may take you out of your comfort zone; better that than making a choice that keeps you “safe” but does not protect you or your interests.
Quandries can move you forward, if handled well. They are inevitable in the course of your life and career. Recognize and honor their power in creating the life you want to live. Once you handle them, a new path is ahead of you.
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An article, Have You Ever Felt That You’re in the Wrong Place in Your Career, in Your Life? offers stories of people who reach fulfillment and success by a circuitous path, often planning in the short-term and rejecting linear, long-term planning. Their paths have involved surprises and unknowns, risks, following their interests and non-traditional choices.
What kind of career path are you on? Is it working for you? Whatever type of path you are on, periodic re-evaluation and awareness of non-traditional options can lead you to the success and fulfillment you are looking for.
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Do you ever get to a place where you feel boxed in and that you have no options? It’s not a pleasant place to be nor is it a place you have to be. You always have options, if you keep your mind open in challenging situations. Yes, they may not be the greatest set of choices; however you can always find a way out of a challenge.
If you are feeling boxed in, take a step back and assess the situation. Give yourself space to identify your options and choose the one that is best for you!
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Where are you working? Is it the “place” where you want and are meant to be? With the year ending, take some time to answer these questions. If the place you are in now is not working for you, make some intentions to change that. You do your best when you are happy and fulfilled.
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Are you getting ready for the holidays? Which do you prefer – slower holidays to relax and savor or holidays packed with activity and fun? You have the choice to make them what you want them to be.
Be deliberate in your thinking and decide how you want to experience the holidays. That way, you create an experience that fills, instead of drains, you.
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You know you can fly, don’t you? Where could you fly that would take your career where you want it to be? A new organization? Another location? A promotion? A new profession? Going out on your own?
Vision yourself with wings to fly. Make it real and see what insights your visioning brings. You are not locked into the life you are leading now. You always have possibilities!
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Some choices are challenging to make. As a result, you may close your eyes as you make them. You just push yourself through to the other side and get it over with. While this may seem easier to do at the time, there is a downside. The choice you are making may impact you later and you are not fully present when you are making it.
Being fully present to the choices you make allows you to lead your life where you want it to be. It may be difficult at times; however why close your eyes? It limits your view and does not serve you.
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When you deny that something exists, you take a risk. Consciously or unconsciously, you may feel safer in denial, but that does not change the reality of a situation.
It is tempting to stay in denial. Sometimes you do not even realize that you are there. Certain situations are hard to face, such as when you have a conflict with someone who has influence over your future, you have something difficult to tell a colleague or there is something you are doing that you know is not good for you, but will be hard to change.
When you are in denial, part of you is asleep. You are blocking out reality. This cannot help you and you risk suffering consequences that you are not ready for. Sometimes, it can take a while before you realize you are in denial. However, once you do, it is in your best interest to face what is there and to move on.
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When something “hooks” me, either in a good way or bad, I find it useful to ask myself “does it matter?” The reason I do this is that some experiences and situations can knock me off balance and my response can be out of proportion to what is happening.
The next time you have an experience that creates a strong reaction, try asking yourself does it matter? Doing so allows you to gain perspective and respond from a place of power. Asking the question centers you, allowing you to get through experiences in control of yourself and to avoid creating messes you have to get out of later.
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Do you ever get yourself to a place where you think you have no choice in a situation? That is a falsity. You always have choice. Saying you have no choice is giving away your power.
Thing is, you may have a hard choice in front of you that you would rather not face. Better to face that hard choice. It never serves you to abdicate your power of choice.
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