How Do You Deal With Fear?

Fear can turn you around in many ways. When you feel fear you can lose perspective, courage and power. Fear can come from within or from things outside you (some use fear to control and manipulate others). It serves you to have a way of dealing with fear when it shows up in your life and work.

What is your natural reaction to fear? Do you hide, try to tackle it, get defensive? Know your natural reaction to fear. Then, identify a way of dealing with fear that serves your interests. Doing this makes a big difference. You will be able to maintain your perspective, courage and power, no matter what comes along.

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Humility

Humility – The state or quality of being humble; freedom from pride and arrogance.

How does humility factor into your life and work? Some see humility as a weakness. Others see it as a strength. Personally, I see it as a strength, if viewed as freedom from pride and arrogance. I recently read a novel where a lead character would often bow his head as a sign of respect for another or acknowledging something that was said. I found power in that image.

Humility does not preclude you from having confidence. It is about how you present yourself to the world. You can allow your best attributes to shine for you, rather than push them on others. You can realize that everyone has value, including you.

How did we get to a place where humility is seen as a weakness, where if you are not constantly promoting yourself you are losing out? Try on some humility and see if it actually empowers and enlivens you.

 

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How Do You Handle Discouragement?

It happens – you get down. All kinds of things can cause you to feel discouraged – personal interactions, failures and mistakes, dashed hopes, unrealized expectations, unfairness. How do you handle discouragement when it shows up in your work?

Here are some aspects of discouragement to look at: your mood darkens, your self-confidence dives, your optimism wanes, your body language reflects your feeling. What are these things about? A lot of them are about your perspective. Acknowledging this can help you deal with discouragement.

Next time you feel discouraged, try changing your perspective. It may take time, but muster your optimism and realize this too shall pass. Find constructive actions you can take to either remedy the situation or prevent the chances of its happening again. Look carefully of the root causes of your discouragement and if you can eliminate any of them. Before you know it your discouragement will dissipate and you will be your confident self again!

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On Point

What does it take for you to be “on point”? Being on point increases your influence, productivity, self-confidence and effectiveness.

There is a lot in our world that can pull you off point. These things can be: creating distractions, unsettled emotions, stress and anxiety, poor preparation, being tired, losing focus, being late, falling into dull routine or disliking what you are doing.

Keep yourself on point by being aware of what you need to be at your best!

 

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Who Defines You?

Do you create who you are or do you allow those around you to define you? It is easy to default to your experiences, surroundings or the people you interact with when considering who you are. You are not what surrounds you or what others say you are. You are you.

If I asked you today who you are, how would you answer? How much of your answer would be rooted in your values, hopes and personal reality? Avoid abdicating to others. Create your life the way you want it to be and define yourself.

 

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What Turns You Upside Down?

It is beneficial for you to stay upright as you go forward in your career. Sometimes, however, things can knock you off balance and even turn you upside down. When that happens, it can put you at a disadvantage. Best to know where your vulnerabilities are, so that you can deal with them.

What turns you upside down? It can be many things – people who approach you with emotions that are alien to or opposite your own, situations that you perceive rob you of the level of control you need, fears or perceptions that certain circumstances can cause great harm to your career, your own insecurities getting triggered, doubt or being outside your comfort zone.

Know what turns you upside down so that you can right yourself quickly and get back on track.

 

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Are You??

You may have heard the statement “you are enough”. There is a lot in it. Being enough means self-acceptance, letting go of guilt and setting your own path. Do you believe you are enough? If the answer is yes, good for you. If the answer is no, what is the reason? Perhaps you want to stretch and always go for more. Perhaps you feel inadequate in some way.

Whatever your answer, let yourself be enough for today and every present moment. When you are enough, you are in a place of power. From that place, you can take yourself anywhere you want to go with inner strength and confidence.

 

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What Makes You Whole?

What do you need to feel good about yourself and your career? By asking what makes you whole, I am referring to what makes you feel good and on top of your game.

There are plenty of things that can take parts of yourself away from you – disappointments, failures, difficult people. But these things do not have to have lasting effects. If you know what makes you whole, you can – in the face of losing a part of yourself or your confidence – do what you need to and make yourself whole again.

What makes you whole is being true to the essence of who you are and what you desire. Know what makes you whole and you can’t go wrong.

What are the things that make you whole and happy?

 

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Bullies Have No Power Unless You Give Yours To Them

bullyKuriouspixabayDo you work with a bully? Bullies do not have real power – they depend on your fear, discomfort or belief in their power over you. If you give power to a bully, they usually run with it.

Stay aware that you have power and choice in any situation. Self-respect, staying calm and managing your emotions are powerful antidotes to a workplace bully.

Check out my animation on How To Deal With A Bully Boss! 

 

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Who Am I?

ID-10026253When I am working with clients who are preparing for an important event or meeting, we often use a tool named “Who Am I?” I first used the tool with a client who was uncertain of how he would present himself at an upcoming conference where he would be meeting people for the first time. Our purpose was to find a way that he could center, build his confidence and handle himself well.

The tool works like this:

• prior to a meeting or event, take time to identify who will be there and how you fit in (set the context)

• identify why you are attending and why you belong there (center yourself)

• take time to lay out what you want to say about yourself when you meet people and what you will say about why you are there (presenting yourself)

• identify any doubts or insecurities you have about the meeting and address them, so you are not caught off guard – in some cases there may not be anything to do about them, but decide how you will handle them – in other cases, chase them away (build confidence)

• identify 3 or more goals that you have for the event or meeting (focus yourself on results)

So often, preparation marks the difference between success and failure. Staying centered and focused goes a long way in building your confidence and reaching your goals.

 

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