Five Ways To Make This Time Work For You

We are in a time when change is here and we are not sure where we are going. It is a time between the past we knew and the future that is coming. We have no roadmap. Here are a few ideas on making the most of the time we are in.

1. If stress and pressure are through the roof for you, consistently bringing yourself back to center is essential.

2. If you have a lot of time and space now, spend it in reflection on what you want your future to be.

3. Whatever your circumstances, find your new balance (physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally) for the time we are in.

4. Find a process to release what was – it is gone.

5. Get yourself to embracing the unknown – this will serve you well.

 

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Ups And Downs

I am beginning to sense that with the COVID-19 situation we are in for a number of ups and downs. Week to week in my coaching and communicating with friends, I am seeing them in action. Of course, the degree of how up and how down varies with each person. Some are dealing with extreme challenges; others are finding themselves tossed to and fro. Few are experiencing life as it used to be.

We need to find ways to navigate these ups and downs or they will mess with our focus and knock us off balance. I am developing ways to handle them. Focus is key to me. If I can get myself back to center when distracted, I can regain focus. I allow that a portion of my energy is going to coping with change and have lowered my expectations a bit. I also create some structure each day so that I do not drift too far.

If ups and downs are with us for a while, lets find ways to deal with them. There’s a good chance that they are leading us to positive change and will be worth it in the long run.

 

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How Do You Come To Acceptance?

The world has changed. We are in a new reality. To come to acceptance, start from the present. Look around at your world to what has changed and what is the same. Identify what you need to live in this world and thrive. If you are having trouble accepting the changes, identify the problem areas and focus on ways to make them easier to accept. For example, if you are working at home and do not like it, look for positives in it, as well as ways to minimize any negative effects.

Some things you may not be able to accept outright, such as the illness or death of a loved one or losing a job. In that case, acceptance comes in coping with what has happened, doing what you can to stay out of fear and allowing your feelings to express themselves. Acceptance will allow you to move on eventually. Resistance keeps you stuck.

Acceptance is freeing and is a process. Once you start moving towards acceptance, life will get better.

 

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How Are You Coping?

Life and politics are pretty tumultuous right now. There is so much change, discord, violence and turning of things upside down. How are you doing with it all? There is value in taking a moment and assessing how the state of our world is affecting you. Are you having trouble with it, finding yourself anxious or distracted or wanting to run away? Once you are in touch with how you are handling it all, you can find your center. Take good care of yourself. This is not easy. Your insights, participation and talents are needed now.

 

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When The Walls Close In

There are times in life when situations you have avoided, or been unable to focus on, come to front and center. Perhaps you have an interpersonal challenge with someone at work, you have not been up front about something when you should have been, you have hidden something about yourself or you have not prepared for something, you should have prepared for.

What do you do when the walls close in? A first suggestion is to breathe. Acknowledge what is happening and that you will deal with it. Accept the choices you have made that got you to this place. Then, get fully in the present moment. To do this, you may have to release some anxiety, fear or other emotions. Often your emotions make a situation appear to be much worse than it isYou need a clear head to decide what your next steps will be. Then, once you have cleared your emotions, focus and determine where to go from here.

If the walls close in (and I hope they never do) you can handle it best by being fully present, acknowledging your emotions and using your brains and hearts to determine what’s next.

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