How is work going for you? Is it time to ask yourself this question? If it is, don’t avoid doing so. A job or work that drains you, isn’t a good fit, doesn’t honor you or isn’t what you want to be doing does you no good. Don’t settle. Keep going and, when you have to, answer the question – Should I stay or should I go?
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What jazzes you and makes you happy? Are those things present in your work life? True, there are some separations that must exist between life and work. However, following a path for your career that includes what makes you happy can bring you significant benefits. Too often, our society sends messages that we are not meant to be happy at work. In reality, being happy with your work leads to productivity, success, purpose and fulfillment.
Is there anything relating to your career that you sometimes think about, but soon dismiss as “too far out there”? It is possible there’s something in it for you. Say there is a part of you that wants to take a big leap, however you are very good at convincing yourself why you can’t do it. In our dreams are clues to what can make us happy. You may be missing out.
If there is something that intrigues you, but you think is too far out there, start with small steps. Ask yourself what it is that draws you to the idea. Look at what part(s) of it may be attainable. Dismiss any negativity about it. You may find that what you thought was too far out there, is just right!
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Many things create new beginnings. What has created new beginnings in your life? Perhaps it was something going away, something new coming in, an ending, a disappointment, a dream that grows within you or a strong desire for change. Sometimes new beginnings are anticipated and sometimes they are unexpected.
When you face a new beginning, best to stay fully in the present moment so that you can deal with its reality. If it has surprised you, give yourself time to come up with a response. Bring your best to the situation and accept that you cannot go backward, only forward. Change is a constant in life. Make your new beginnings fun and productive.
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In the early days of the coaching profession there was focus on the stories we tell ourselves. These stories impact our perspective, emotions and actions, as we build our careers and work every day.
Do you have a “story” that you tell yourself? Perhaps the story is that you are trapped in your current circumstances, that the world is against you, that there is no place to go or that you are underappreciated. Or, perhaps your story is that there are no limits, that you can do whatever you put your mind to or that the world will support you in your dreams. See the difference?
What stories do you tell yourself?
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Hope and reality: there is a difference between the two. Aligning them serves you. Let’s say you are hoping for a promotion and bonus at the end of this year. Sure, you are hopeful; have you focused on the reality of it happening? Conversely, reality may discourage you about your chances of getting them; have you kept hope alive?
The key is to let hope and reality work side-by-side. You have a goal or dream and allow yourself to be hopeful. Then, you look at the reality of the situation, not as the final determinant, but as a check on what you will have to do to realize your goal or dream. Or, your reality is currently not living up to your expectations so you generate some hope of changing your reality.
Do you currently have an expectation, goal or dream that can benefit by aligning your hope and reality?
When you look in front of you, what do you see for your life? Do you see a narrow path or a path filled with possibilities?
A world of possibilities is always available to you. The key is to be open to them and not put blinders on that block your vision. These blinders can be made of fear, a desire to conform, limiting beliefs and the like.
Take a moment now to think big. Suspend disbelief. Take any blinders off. Make a list of 5 exciting possibilities that lie in front of you. Then, start moving towards one or more of them. You will be in a new land and dreams you have will come into reach.
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Sometimes, it is hard to let go. Here are 5 things that can tell you it is time to leave.
1. You have seen a shift in your attitude or mood that indicates a situation is not working for you.
2. You lose your optimism and enthusiasm about life.
3. You are being disrespected or are forced to act out of integrity.
4. You do not like the people you are spending your time with (in fact, you can’t stand them).
5. Your dreams of happiness are always somewhere other than where you are now.
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Sometimes it is hard to look at situations, people or beliefs that are not serving you. Ignoring them, however, doesn’t make them go away. They are still there; you are just refusing to see them There are consequences to this blindness. When something does not serve you, it is either taking up space or harming you. Sometimes it grows worse over time. Imagine something growing larger beside you, as long as you refuse to see.
Are there any things in your life today that you are refusing to see? Perhaps something that is chipping away at your confidence, a relationship that drains your energy, a dream you are avoiding pursuing or something you are neglecting?
Opening your eyes is not as hard as you may think it is. Refusing to see holds you back and closes your eyes to the life you want to live. Open eyes are a much better alternative.
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Recently, The New York Times did a feature article on “Old Masters At The Top Of Their Game” – people still thriving in their careers in their 80s and 90s. The article features authors, a naturalist, performers, a Supreme Court Justice, an athlete, and others.
All of us have an array of choices when we think about whether or how we want to retire. We can leave our careers and take it easy. We can start a new career. We can keep going at what we are doing. We can pursue our dreams. Factors such as money, career fulfillment and health, of course, will influence us. But how wonderful to have an array of choices and to not have society dictating that we must stop working at a certain time.
What do you dream of for your older years? I’d enjoy hearing from you. Will you retire?
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