At times, you may find yourself neither here nor there. You are not where you were a year ago and not quite settled into something new. Perhaps you have undergone a tangible change or nothing has changed, except that you are different in your own perceptions of your life and work.
Nothing wrong with that! You are on a journey. You change over time and not instantaneously. When you feel you are in-between, maybe even a bit lost, get present to it. Try to understand where you are and make the most of it. It can be a time of new insights, growth and creating new dreams, before you reach the next step on your journey.
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Sometimes things are hiding in plain sight; however, you fail to see them. There can be many reasons: an expectation or strong emotion like anger clouds your view, what is there creates fear for you, you have not experienced anything like it before and therefore fail to recognize it, you are not fully present to what is going on, you are avoiding seeing it or a need to please prevents you from acknowledging what is there.
Being asleep to something is human. It’s not hard to find yourself there. Key is to will yourself “awake” to what is happening around you in your workplace. The benefits are obvious. By seeing the truth of a situation you can assess it appropriately and decide how to respond in a manner that is best for you and your career.
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Your emotions and what is happening in the environment you work in are not constant. They are frequently changing. It makes sense that they affect your experience of work and managing.
When you or your environment become strained what do you attribute it to? Are you even aware of the strain or do you react to it without identifying the factors that are causing it? Here is another place where it behooves you to pause and assess. By being aware of your emotions and environment and their effects on what you are feeling, you can deal with the strain head-on, instead of being victim to it.
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A recent NY Times article, So You’ve Made a Huge Mistake. What Now? by Tim Herrera looks at recovering from a mistake or blunder.
Mistakes can stop you in your tracks and even send you backwards, if you let them. Staying present to a mistake you have made brings all your skill and talent to rectifying any damage done. Next time you make “a big one”, accept it and move on towards a better place than you were before. Mistakes help you grow and learn. They are not worthless or unfixable.
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Life is calm when it is steady. However, sometimes you have to flip – when circumstances change, you rethink a situation or you see something that was previously hidden. While it may be hard to flip, sometimes it is necessary to avoid worse outcomes.
Can you think of a time when you had to “flip”? What was the cause? How did it work out? The ability to discern when to change serves you well.
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Life is seldom a straight line. It goes up and down and up and down again. Sometimes the down times can unsettle you. They are not permanent, just part of the movement and rhythm of life. Try looking at them as temporary “dips” with various purposes and outcomes. Trust that you will find your way out eventually and move to higher ground.
Dips can be a setback, a lull, a course correction or a disappointment. Dips can occur so that you can slow down, look carefully, take a new perspective, gather momentum or find a new direction. Dips aren’t a failure or a problem. They are something to be aware of and to deal with in a productive and meaningful way.
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How do you respond to surprises? By their nature, surprises unsettle you. Some surprises are pleasant, some are not. What’s one surprise that you experienced at work? How did you respond? How will you respond to the next surprise that comes along?
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1. Undefined personal boundaries
2. Tendencies to create “dramas” with co-workers
4. Grudges or biases rooted in past experiences
8. Lack of focus
10. Too little fun
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At work you form relationships. Do you ever think about the nature of those relationships? This is something that is worth your attention, as missteps can have negative consequences.
Relationships form at work as a result of common goals, mutual advantage, the dictates of others and organizational ties. They are not always formed by choice or preference, as personal friendships are. Hidden agendas can be present and self interests or competition can create discord.
A “work friendship” is possible. Just make sure you know its nature and the boundaries to keep.
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When chaos shows up, best to be ready for it. Chaos can sweep you away into disorganization, disorientation, unbalanced emotions and confusion. You don’t want that to happen, do you?
Being ready for chaos involves the ability to quickly get grounded and fully into the present moment, focus, discernment, insight and emotional intelligence. Developing these skills can help you be ready for whatever chaos comes along!
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