Disentangle

These times present deep opportunities for change. Essential to change is making room for it. One way to make room is to let go of things that no longer serve you. This can be a challenging task if you are deeply involved in something. In that case, disentangling yourself takes time and skill.

Is there anything you would like to disentangle yourself from now? Here are some tips on how to do it:

• Identify all the elements in the situation that you must disentangle from.

• Which ones will be the most difficult? Why? Are there emotional entanglements? Are there aspects that you are economically dependent on? Is it hard for you to accept leaving things behind?

• Then, muster up your courage and emotional intelligence and come up with a plan for how you can let them go.

• Take it step by step. Commit to disentangling and persist.

• Vision how your life and work will be once you disentangle. Let this vision motivate you.

Disentangling frees you to create life and work that fulfills you. Give it a try. You can do it!

 

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Making Space For Others

You are not alone when you interact with others throughout your workday. The nature of your interactions can directly affect your levels of success and fulfillment. Key to having positive and valuable interactions is making space for others. Making space involves emotional intelligence, the ability to listen, respecting all you encounter, allowing for differences and communicating effectively.

Do you consciously make space for others in your daily interactions? It can make a very positive difference. Give it a try!

 

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Is Your Bandwidth Changing?

Bandwidth is a phrase now used to describe your personal capacity for something. Have you felt your capacity being stretched lately? It is helpful to check in every once in a while on whether you are keeping up with your own expectations and those others have of you.

To check your bandwidth, here are a few questions to answer:

• Are your personal needs being met?
• Are you keeping up with work deadlines and your own expectations?
• How are you feeling – physically and emotionally?
• How often do you feel frazzled or stressed?
• Is your life in balance?

In times of change your bandwidth may change as well. Allow yourself to adjust to what is happening now, so that you can keep your performance at its peak.

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Miscommunication

Missing the mark in your communications can be very frustrating. Your actions are not matching your intentions and confusion or trouble ensues. Sometimes, it happens. To give yourself a good chance of avoiding miscommunication, give these approaches a try:

•Prepare for any work-related communications you have. Review ahead of time your purpose for communicating, what result you want from the communication, how the person(s) you will communicate with may react to what you say and what could go wrong.

•On a personal level, employ your emotional intelligence regarding how your communication may be received by the person(s) you will be communicating with.

•When communicating, stay centered. Don’t rush into a conversation or let pressure get you off center. Cultivate your ability to respond in the present moment to whatever occurs.

Good communication is an art, treat it as such. If you want some expert advice, check out my friend Diana Peterson-More’s  book Consequential Communication In Turbulent Times as well as her articles – just right for these times – on Linked In.

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Getting Antsy?

There are a range of experiences you can have in the situation these days: being on the front lines of response, dealing with illness, staying at home or something in-between. Do you find yourself reacting to these changes by feeling uncertain and anxious? That’s natural, when you are out of your comfort zone.

A lot has changed and you are facing a high level of unknowns. Fear is palpable and what the future will look like is anyone’s guess. To cope with these changes staying as centered as possible is essential. Find your new center amidst it all and create ways to get back there when things distract you. Maintaining focus helps as well. Create times of the day when you focus on certain things and stick with them. Allow that you may get distracted more than usual, but don’t let distraction take hold for too long. Manage your expectations as well. Keep them reasonable and nurturing.

You will get through this. Stay steady and our new normal will gradually emerge. Be well!

 

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Not My Issue

The ability to discern where you expend your energy is critical now. If you are using all that you have to live and work, you don’t have extra energy for other people’s dramas or demands. You want to do what you need to do to take care of yourself and your loved ones, get your work done and be where you can do the most good.

Are others’ issues or demands encroaching on you or stressing you right now? If your answer is yes, take some time to evaluate what is happening and what you want to do about it. There are ways you can set boundaries without being aggressive or nasty. If you do not have time or energy to answer a demand or to do something, state that clearly and kindly to the people involved.

Knowing what to say no to and what to say yes to will help you maintain balance and function effectively in these times.

 

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What Frequency Are You Tuned Into?

We have been through a big change. Time now to begin aligning with this new reality. Look at where you are right now. What frequency are you tuned into? Is it one of bewilderment, fear, peace, upset, acclimation, anticipation, seeking or something else? Where do you want to be? Perhaps your answer is that you want to be back where you used to be; however that is no longer possible.

Anxiety and fear will lessen as you bring yourself into the present and figure out how you want to be in this reality. By taking in what is happening, you can choose how to tune yourself into a frequency that works best for you.

 

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Disoriented

Big change can sometimes leave you feeling uncertain and unsettled. Your once familiar environment is looking different these days. New things are being asked of you, in order to keep your life and work going. Here are some tips on how to deal with feeling disoriented:

• Spend some time looking around and identify the major changes that have occurred.

• Check in on your emotional and mental states. What is going on there?

• Identify what you can do now to feel more comfortable with the changes that have occurred.

• Eventually, find acceptance of the world you are living in now. (You have no choice)

• Start to identify ways you can protect yourself and also thrive in your new environment.

Trying to turn back is futile. Moving forward helps you adjust to and accept the changes that have occurred.

 

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Check Ins

We’re in a different space now. All of us are adjusting. In times of change, it is good to check in with yourself periodically to assess how you are doing. Why? Because there are no routines or set paths. What was is not always relevant. Stress and anxiety are present.

Answer a few questions. What is important to you now in your life and work? What is in your best interest to do? What are the things that can dishearten or stress you? What makes you feel better? What must you get done? Once you have these answers, you can create a way to check in with yourself periodically and when you find yourself losing your center. After your check in, you can course-correct and get yourself back to center.

Checking in will help you set a new path that works for you and move you forward in the direction you want to go.

 

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Creating Chaos

Deliberate chaos is an interesting thing to look at. Do you see others creating or do you yourself create chaos? Chaos is confusion, extreme drama, disorder and even mayhem. People deliberately create chaos for many reasons – to maintain control by unsettling those around them, to avoid having to deal with something, to create energy that they can use for themselves or to cover up something they do not want others to see. They may do this consciously or unconsciously, but the effects on themselves and others are the same.

Take a look at creating chaos relating to yourself and observe those around you. What do you see?

 

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