A recent NY Times article, So You’ve Made a Huge Mistake. What Now? by Tim Herrera looks at recovering from a mistake or blunder.
Mistakes can stop you in your tracks and even send you backwards, if you let them. Staying present to a mistake you have made brings all your skill and talent to rectifying any damage done. Next time you make “a big one”, accept it and move on towards a better place than you were before. Mistakes help you grow and learn. They are not worthless or unfixable.
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Life is calm when it is steady. However, sometimes you have to flip – when circumstances change, you rethink a situation or you see something that was previously hidden. While it may be hard to flip, sometimes it is necessary to avoid worse outcomes.
Can you think of a time when you had to “flip”? What was the cause? How did it work out? The ability to discern when to change serves you well.
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Life is seldom a straight line. It goes up and down and up and down again. Sometimes the down times can unsettle you. They are not permanent, just part of the movement and rhythm of life. Try looking at them as temporary “dips” with various purposes and outcomes. Trust that you will find your way out eventually and move to higher ground.
Dips can be a setback, a lull, a course correction or a disappointment. Dips can occur so that you can slow down, look carefully, take a new perspective, gather momentum or find a new direction. Dips aren’t a failure or a problem. They are something to be aware of and to deal with in a productive and meaningful way.
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How do you respond to surprises? By their nature, surprises unsettle you. Some surprises are pleasant, some are not. What’s one surprise that you experienced at work? How did you respond? How will you respond to the next surprise that comes along?
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1. Undefined personal boundaries
2. Tendencies to create “dramas” with co-workers
4. Grudges or biases rooted in past experiences
8. Lack of focus
10. Too little fun
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At work you form relationships. Do you ever think about the nature of those relationships? This is something that is worth your attention, as missteps can have negative consequences.
Relationships form at work as a result of common goals, mutual advantage, the dictates of others and organizational ties. They are not always formed by choice or preference, as personal friendships are. Hidden agendas can be present and self interests or competition can create discord.
A “work friendship” is possible. Just make sure you know its nature and the boundaries to keep.
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When chaos shows up, best to be ready for it. Chaos can sweep you away into disorganization, disorientation, unbalanced emotions and confusion. You don’t want that to happen, do you?
Being ready for chaos involves the ability to quickly get grounded and fully into the present moment, focus, discernment, insight and emotional intelligence. Developing these skills can help you be ready for whatever chaos comes along!
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Gravitas: A serious or dignified demeanor.
Gravitas was a virtue that was particularly appreciated in leaders in Ancient Rome. It still matters today. Is there anything going on in your work life right now that needs your gravitas? Taking things lightly can be a benefit or a detriment, depending on the situation. In some cases, seriousness is what moves you forward in the best and most efficient way.
There are a number of things that indicate when your gravitas is warranted: others involved are taking the situation very seriously, the possible consequences of how you proceed can cause problems for you, the outcome of the situation matters greatly to you or others who matter, you have something to lose if the outcome does not go your way or your own values are involved and you want to honor them.
What needs your gravitas today?
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Avoidance is an energy drain and usually does not make something go away. Best to face, rather than avoid, something you would rather not deal with.
Is there anything you are avoiding now? If yes, claim it. You have what you need to face it and determine what you want to do.
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Our world seems defined by polarity these days. Opposites are not exactly attracting. The constructive answer to polarity is to get through it.
Do you see examples of polarity on a day-to-day level? You do our world a service, if you find ways to get through it to harmony.
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