You have dealt with the unknown all your life. There are a variety of ways to do so: fear, making up things to fill unknown spaces, getting comfortable with it, pretending it isn’t there or running from it.
The world you live in now, however, is filled with a multitude of unknowns and asks you to look them in their face. Once you do, you realize that the bottom line of all you are experiencing is that you don’t know what the future will bring. As hard as it is, if you start from there you have the best chance of making it through and thriving in these times.
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It is unsettling when your work is taken from you or suddenly changed. Your foundation has been broken. There are many ways to react and respond to this. Creating something new is one of the best ways.
Will you look back and yearn for what is gone or surrender to your new circumstances? Perhaps you are working from home for the first time or have little to do. In the midst of fear, anxiety and change you have opportunity.
Creativity comes from within – you have all that you need. Start looking for something new to do in this time of crisis, if you have the luxury of time and space to do it in. If time and space are short, scale down and find something that fits for you.
What dreams have you had in your life that you have not pursued? What skills do you want to develop? What brings you joy? In starting something new, you shift the energy of your life and work. There is light on the horizon to occupy you and guide your way.
What can you start today?
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Running can be helpful when you need to get away fast. However, sometimes running is a reaction to unfounded fear or avoidance and that is never a good starting point.
Stop – just for a moment. Why are you running? If a situation or person must be faced and you are in fear, you can diminish your fear by looking squarely at what is happening and figuring out a plan of action that serves your interests. Make sure your running is productive and will get you somewhere that you want to go.
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It is a natural reaction, when you do not favor something, to move away from it. Sometimes, that is just the right thing to do. Other times, your reaction may be motivated by fear or another emotion that really does not serve your best interests. In that case, if you move away, it harms you.
Learn to discern when you should move towards something, rather than away from it. Examples could be an opportunity to develop a skill, a chance to repair a relationship, something that stretches you in a positive way or something that releases a negative aspect of your life. Have the courage to make things better.
Moving towards something moves you forward, so move forward, in your own interests, whenever you can!
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Fear is unpleasant and disconcerting. It can show up in life and work, with people you love and those you don’t, in unfamiliar situations and because other people are promoting it.
If you don’t like feeling fear, make sure not to feed it. Fear can get a grip on you very quickly. It has a power of its own and takes courage and strength to deal with. Learn to recognize and understand your fear. Once it shows up, find ways to stop it, rather than letting it grow.
You can stop fear in many ways: by grounding in the present moment and looking at the cause of your fear and by finding techniques to deal with it such as employing ways to calm yourself down, engaging in physical exercise or identifying the usual causes of your fear and addressing them directly.
The next time you feel fear best to stop it, rather than feed it. Fear slows you down and scares you. Your life and work are better off without it.
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Fear can turn you around in many ways. When you feel fear you can lose perspective, courage and power. Fear can come from within or from things outside you (some use fear to control and manipulate others). It serves you to have a way of dealing with fear when it shows up in your life and work.
What is your natural reaction to fear? Do you hide, try to tackle it, get defensive? Know your natural reaction to fear. Then, identify a way of dealing with fear that serves your interests. Doing this makes a big difference. You will be able to maintain your perspective, courage and power, no matter what comes along.
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Indecision is tough. Everyone, in varying degrees, experiences it. You need time to make a decision – that’s a given. However indecision, if allowed to go on too long, can paralyze you.
How can you get through indecision? Here are a few ideas:
• Give yourself a break. Your decisions are not set in stone. They are only set in the present moment, with the information you have available to you. Know that your past decisions do not own you. You can change a decision if things change in the future.
• Trust yourself that you are ready to make a decision. Your mind may play games telling you that you are not capable or ready, but you are.
• Do your best to let go of an expectation that you will make a perfect decision. Such a thing doesn’t exist. You can strive to make the best decision possible for you and that is pretty good.
• Do your best to identify your fears regarding a decision. What is the nature of your fear? Is it real or made-up? Figure out how can you confront any fears you encounter. Act in spite of the fear, knowing that you have thought the decision out as best you can.
You alone walk your journey. Only you can keep your feet moving on your path. Walk at the pace that works for you and keep yourself in motion.
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Usually, you know if you have stayed too long in a place or situation. It doesn’t feel good, but you can’t get yourself moving. Perhaps you don’t know where to go, don’t like going outside of your comfort zone or have fear around your next step. As uncomfortable as it may be, it is in your best interest to get moving. Staying too long has negative consequences. Things can get worse. You can get increasingly frustrated or worried. You can lose control and get pushed out.
Once you have recognized that you have stayed too long, start looking forward. The past is over. Your world has changed. Create a new chapter that will bring you happiness and fulfillment. You can do it.
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Who is in charge – your mind or you? Often, your mind is a master in taking the lead. There are definite positives in that. However, staying centered among the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual aspects of your life has many more advantages. Allowing your mind to be a runaway train does not serve you.
What’s the nature of your mind’s chatter? Does it distract you? Cause worry or anxiety? Tell you false truths? Have you found ways to balance your mind’s chatter and maintain your center? In my next post, I’ll identify ten ways to balance your mind’s unproductive chatter.
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Walls have different functions. When you build a wall best to know its purpose. Is your wall meant to protect you, keep others out or to serve another intention? Make sure the wall serves the purpose you intend it for.
What is a wall? A wall is a separation; a way to keep yourself in or something or someone else out. You can build a wall as protection from someone who does not act in your interest. You can build a wall because you are fearful of something or someone. You can build a wall for detachment, so that you can trust your perception of a situation.
Sometimes, you can build a wall unconsciously, driven by your emotions. Once you do so, the wall is affecting you and can have negative consequences that you are not even aware of. When you build a wall, know what you are doing. Walls are barriers – make sure they serve a positive purpose before you build one.
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