Sometimes, before you know it, things are running at high speed and you don’t know how they got that fast. It may be that something you are associated with took off in a direction you did not anticipate and is well along now. Or, you yourself have gotten into a situation emotionally or otherwise and you don’t know how it got where it is. Or, a situation you were once committed to took another direction and you don’t think you can go along.
You are not subject to whatever is happening. You can regain control for yourself. First, get a perspective on what is actually happening. Then, center and figure out what is best for you. From there you may not be able to stop what has happened, but you can refigure your involvement. If something is running at high speed, it does not mean that you have to. You can always stop yourself.
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There are many circumstances and times in your career when it behooves you to ask, “How far can I go?” By asking this question, you assess your chances of success in what you are doing. Say a co-worker or manager has crossed a boundary with you. When you ask this question it helps you consider what reactions and responses you could receive as you protect your boundaries.
This question also has relevance in relationship to your independence and creativity. What are the lines you cannot cross in your organization’s culture? If you find yourself restricted and are not able to go as far as you like, perhaps some reflection is called for on whether the culture you are in is right for you.
It would be great if you lived in a world with no limits. However, limits do exist – some are imposed arbitrarily and some with good reason. Ultimately though, you are the one who answers the question, “How far can I go?”
Sometimes, situations get to a place where it is best for you to separate from them for a little while or possibly longer. Separation creates distance that can improve both your perspective and your handing of something. Separation brings you to yourself, away from the influence of others. The hubbub of the world and our surroundings can be detrimental at times. The next time you face a challenge, are feeling confused or just need a break, try separating yourself from whatever is happening. Hopefully, you will find it refreshes and rejuvenates you.
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Independence: freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others.
Here in the United States, we are approaching our July 4th holiday – Independence Day. It is a fun day of celebration, good eating, fireworks and festivities.
What’s the state of your own independence? In your estimation, are you too independent or not independent enough? It is a balancing act, as we are interdependent on each other, but also want to be independent and on our own.
Independence matters in several ways. It allows your true expression of self, keeps you free from the control of others and allows you some “space” to be you. How independent do you want to be?
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