How Do You Handle Quandries?

Quandry: a state of perplexity or uncertainty over what to do in a difficult situation.

Sometimes, the path ahead of you is not clear. Choices are needed. When you are in a quandry, best to face head-on the choices you have to make. They may take you out of your comfort zone; better that than making a choice that keeps you “safe” but does not protect you or your interests.

Quandries can move you forward, if handled well. They are inevitable in the course of your life and career. Recognize and honor their power in creating the life you want to live. Once you handle them, a new path is ahead of you.

 

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Practicality

Perspectives on being practical can vary – seeing practicality as being grounded in what is and acting from there or as an inhibitor, such as when one says, “I’d love to do that, but it is not practical”.

How do you view practicality? Is it an element in your decision-making and choices? Examining your perspective on practicality may be fruitful. Allow it to help you move forward, rather than hold you back.

 

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Indecision

Indecision is tough. Everyone, in varying degrees, experiences it. You need time to make a decision –  that’s a given. However indecision, if allowed to go on too long, can paralyze you.

How can you get through indecision? Here are a few ideas:

• Give yourself a break. Your decisions are not set in stone. They are only set in the present moment, with the information you have available to you. Know that your past decisions do not own you. You can change a decision if things change in the future.

• Trust yourself that you are ready to make a decision. Your mind may play games telling you that you are not capable or ready, but you are.

• Do your best to let go of an expectation that you will make a perfect decision. Such a thing doesn’t exist. You can strive to make the best decision possible for you and that is pretty good.

• Do your best to identify your fears regarding a decision. What is the nature of your fear? Is it real or made-up? Figure out how can you confront any fears you encounter. Act in spite of the fear, knowing that you have thought the decision out as best you can.

You alone walk your journey. Only you can keep your feet moving on your path. Walk at the pace that works for you and keep yourself in motion.

 

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Keeping Things Moving

There’s a difference between movement and activity. You can keep your day active, but how do you make sure you are moving forward? One way is to identify your goals for the week, with a deadline for each one. This is a simple and well-known approach, but  goals are not always front and center during a busy day. Use your deadlines as markers of your progress during the week. Another way is to set daily priorities and order them according to their importance. At the end of each day, review how you did and set your priorities accordingly for the next day.

A day’s distractions and interruptions, as well as frustrations and energy drains, take your focus away from your goals and priorities. Identify “911” signs that you are losing focus, so that you don’t stray too far. If your day becomes unfocused, develop a ritual to refuel and regain your focus.

Keeping things going requires that you maintain your focus and attention on your priorities. Not always an easy thing to do, but a sure-fire way to keep things moving.

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