We live in a world that places a high value on connection. Especially in the work world – some believe your network is everything. There is truth in this, but not the whole truth. What is your preference? How much interpersonal connection works for you?

Here are some things to consider in answering these two questions:

• Does interaction with others energize or deplete you?

• How much value does your workplace put on interpersonal connection and communication?

• In your workplace’s culture, does connection create positive or negative outcomes?

• How have interpersonal connections and communication propelled your career so far?

We are in this together for sure. How together is your choice!


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Who Am I?

ID-10026253When I am working with clients who are preparing for an important event or meeting, we often use a tool named “Who Am I?” I first used the tool with a client who was uncertain of how he would present himself at an upcoming conference where he would be meeting people for the first time. Our purpose was to find a way that he could center, build his confidence and handle himself well.

The tool works like this:

• prior to a meeting or event, take time to identify who will be there and how you fit in (set the context)

• identify why you are attending and why you belong there (center yourself)

• take time to lay out what you want to say about yourself when you meet people and what you will say about why you are there (presenting yourself)

• identify any doubts or insecurities you have about the meeting and address them, so you are not caught off guard – in some cases there may not be anything to do about them, but decide how you will handle them – in other cases, chase them away (build confidence)

• identify 3 or more goals that you have for the event or meeting (focus yourself on results)

So often, preparation marks the difference between success and failure. Staying centered and focused goes a long way in building your confidence and reaching your goals.


photo: Salvatore Vuono,