Can you have certainty when you declare “never”? You do not know the future or its circumstances. Give some thought before saying ”never”. Is doing so a reaction or a response? Is it a result of fear or confirmation of a value you currently hold, but may not in the future?
Saying “never” is a strong statement that can box you in. Use the phrase sparingly or not at all.
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Do you ever get to a place where you feel boxed in and that you have no options? It’s not a pleasant place to be nor is it a place you have to be. You always have options, if you keep your mind open in challenging situations. Yes, they may not be the greatest set of choices; however you can always find a way out of a challenge.
If you are feeling boxed in, take a step back and assess the situation. Give yourself space to identify your options and choose the one that is best for you!
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Sometimes you can find yourself on the edge of something and feeling a bit unsteady. It can be an edge between two options, or decisions, an edge that you are starting to step off involuntarily or an edge of conflicting emotions. When you are teetering on an edge, gather your awareness; you don’t want to fall.
You can get yourself to an edge unconsciously and be surprised that you are there. Or, your actions can lead you there step-by-step. When you find yourself on an edge, best to regroup immediately, figure out what got you there and steady yourself. Then, you can take the action that is in your best interest.
Have you found yourself teetering on the edge recently? Did you get yourself back to solid ground?
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Whether you are an entrepreneur or working for an organization, you are a free agent. You have the ability to choose the direction your life and work will go in. You have options. Sometimes, circumstances can get you to a place where you are accepting situations that do not serve you and you think you have no choice but to accept them.
What are you accepting that you shouldn’t be? You can start looking at this by identifying your highest pain points as a manager. Take a look at them and at whether the pain they cause outweighs the risk of making choices to improve your situation. As a coach, I see too many situations where managers are tired, discouraged, under-resourced, overworked and underappreciated. Managers think they have no choice in the matter, but they do!
The choices you make may involve some time. At first, it may simply be choosing “I am going to create a better life”. The most significant factor is to change the perception that you have no choice. Then, give yourself some time to think out what options are available to you. Move at the level of risk that you can handle. After you have made a choice the steps will start filling in, if you keep your attention on it. Joseph Campbell had some good insights when he discussed “Following Your Bliss”:
“If you do follow your bliss you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”
Living the life you want to live is possible. Why accept a life or work that does not serve you?
Much too often, I hear from managers that they are in an organization that is working them to death and, at the same time, communicating that they are dispensable. There’s a major disjoint in this. An organization is asking more of a manager, often way beyond reason, and at the same time is refusing to recognize the extra (and often extraordinary) contributions the manager is making. The dispensability message may be subtle, but is heard clearly by managers and employees. No additional income, no recognition, “bottom line” justifications, more time, less resources, we can find someone else if you cannot do it – a recipe for burnout and frustration. The tactic is weighted significantly in the favor of the organization, at the expense of their employees. Something is radically wrong here.
Are you in a situation like this? Best to evaluate the toll it is taking on you and what your options are. Save yourself. There may be no one else watching out for you. Be confident of your value, set boundaries and don’t let anyone run you into the ground. You are worthy of more than this.
An important step to career satisfaction is to know that satisfaction is possible. Once you know this, it is worthwhile to start exploring. Exploring can be anything you want it to be: seeing what options are out there for you, asking yourself if the work you are doing is what you want to be doing, investigating possibilities or taking some time to dream and see what shows up.
Managers deal with a lot of stress and ups and downs. Sometimes, in the midst of it all, you can forget that career fulfillment is possible. Not only is it possible, but it is waiting for you. You deserve to be a manager satisfied.