A recent New York Times column, Your Workplace Isn’t Your Family (And That’s OK!) , has a warning for people who see work as family: put yourself first.
Do you see your co-workers as family? It is easy to go to that place. You spend so much time with them. You want to be accepted. You work as a team. It is important to distinguish that “family” as you know it at home, is an illusion in the workplace. You can redefine family for your workplace; however be sure you have no confusion – work is not family.
Work can be a rewarding and rich experience with lasting relationships, yes. However, remember you are at work to perform and reach common goals, that may not be your own. You have to look out for you.
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Fast Company Magazine had an article this week How Would You Feel If Your Co-Workers Decided Your Bonus? The article profiles Bonus.ly, an online peer recognition system. My first thought was that a peer recognition system could help build team collaboration. Then my mind ran away with questions. What about peers with agendas? How would you ensure awards were merited? Isn’t it a good thing to get away from hierarchy and be more egalitarian? Would culture changes have to precede such a system?
Where this ultimately led me, was to examine the nature of peer relationships and what their role is in our work. How are your peer relationships? Are these relationships something you work on? How do they matter to you? Are you dependent on peers for your own success? How much do peer relationships really matter? How is your team doing with their peer relationships?
Let me know your thoughts on peer relationships.