I recently came across this statement: We want to be seen so that we know we exist. It caught me. Some like the spotlight. Others avoid it. The statement may go deeper. What does being seen mean to you? Is it recognition of your talents, attention from others, receiving the respect you are due or something else? Whatever your desire, validate your feelings and declare them a value that you can honor.
How do you want to be seen in the world? It is up to you to make it so.
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1. Insist that others treat you with respect.
2. Take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally so that you can perform at your best.
3. Acknowledge that while work is an element of your life, it is not the only element.
4. Believe that you can be happy at work.
5. Fully accept where you are now and make that your starting point for any changes you want to make.
If you come up with any good reasons not to do these things, let me know. ☺
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In our society, compassion and connection are sometimes seen as signs of weakness. In the work world, this view is even more prevalent. It is felt that you cannot be powerful without subduing your emotions and empathy for others. As a result, workplaces can sometimes be brutal and people can be crushed by them.
Increasingly, with the introduction of concepts such as emotional intelligence, this is changing. Astute leaders are realizing that offering respect and dignity to everyone they lead makes for a more productive workplace and does not hurt results at all. Perhaps it is time to welcome people’s hearts into the workplace. In doing so, mind and heart can be in balance and a new type of power can be born.
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Many times, a sense of entitlement is seen as a negative thing. What if you developed a sense of entitlement that allowed you to find fulfillment in your work? What would it look like? Your sense of entitlement would come from a commitment to give your best to your work by developing your skills, using your talents and maintaining high productivity for the betterment of your organization. In return you would be valued, treated with respect, challenged to grow and acknowledged. This way, the work gets done and everyone plays their part.
Any downside to this? I don’t think so. It corrects an imbalance in many organizations that undervalue people and corrects a negative sense of entitlement on the part of workers who are not giving their best. Everyone wins.
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When you fool yourself about something you are operating on a false premise, as well as wasting your time. There are many incentives to fool yourself: fearing the truth, not wanting to face something and move forward, avoiding finding answers or preferring fantasy to reality. You can fool yourself in many areas: how well you are performing, the true nature and values of your organization and co-workers, whether you are happy and fulfilled in your work or to what degree your work is respected and valued.
Is there anything you are fooling yourself about? Once you identify that you are, you have taken a big step. From there you can face the situation and find your way to something better.
“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.” ― Søren Kierkegaard
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Who wrote the law that says it is acceptable to disregard a person’s space in the workplace? You would think such a law exists by the way people do it. We all have the right to be treated with respect and have our privacy honored.
Disregarding someone’s space can involve aggressive or angry behavior, taking no notice of a person’s feelings, demeaning them, intruding on their privacy, physical closeness that makes the person uncomfortable or showing disrespect. These actions are not essential to a productive workplace. When they do happen, productivity is diminished.
As a manager, you can model this respect for a person’s space. If your organization’s culture excuses bad behavior, make sure you do not. Talk with your team about emotional intelligence, diversity, the dignity of each person and what it means to respect each other.
Respecting each person’s space creates harmony, understanding, motivation and fruitful collaboration for your team.
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