Oh, if life was a smooth ride without discomfort. Not! Your level of comfort with discomfort is a factor in your ability to cope and thrive in life and work. There are numerous reactions you can have to being uncomfortable – anxiety, fear and avoidance are a few.
There are benefits to developing a response to discomfort that serves you, rather than only reacting. This starts with facing your emotion of discomfort. Look it in the eye and acknowledge it. Then, break it down in pieces – what is going on? Decide what its cause is and what you can do about it. As you do this over time, being uncomfortable will start to lose its power. You may even get comfortable with being uncomfortable! ☺
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It is beneficial for you to stay upright as you go forward in your career. Sometimes, however, things can knock you off balance and even turn you upside down. When that happens, it can put you at a disadvantage. Best to know where your vulnerabilities are, so that you can deal with them.
What turns you upside down? It can be many things – people who approach you with emotions that are alien to or opposite your own, situations that you perceive rob you of the level of control you need, fears or perceptions that certain circumstances can cause great harm to your career, your own insecurities getting triggered, doubt or being outside your comfort zone.
Know what turns you upside down so that you can right yourself quickly and get back on track.
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Sometimes, even the slightest shift in your perspective changes the way you see your life, your work or a particular situation. Do you ever consciously focus on how your current perspective is affecting the way you experience things?
If you are looking at something through a lens of anger, excitement, sadness, being tired, worry, fear, comparison with your past or comparison with others, you may not be seeing what is truly there. When you are looking at a situation, it behooves you to do a “perspective check” to make sure you are centered and looking through a clear lens. We al know that rose-color glasses or foggy ones can alter your vision.
Try to maintain a clear perspective and shift away from lenses that skew the truth. Doing so, can serve you well.
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When you work, you bring your whole self to whatever you do. One aspect of self is conditioning – past experiences that have a powerful influence on the way you think and act. We all have conditioning, whether we are conscious of it or not. Do you have a sense of your own conditioning? It is helpful to develop this awareness so you can be in charge of your responses, attitudes and actions in the situations you encounter.
What are the past experiences that have influenced you? What values have you developed over the years? Have past experiences created insecurities or strong convictions that you have? Can you see any of these influencing the way you have handled situations in the past? Do you shy away from anything because you are fearful?
Being awake to your conditioning allows you to know yourself fully and bring all that you are to your work and life. Once awake to them, you have the power to evaluate the effects of your past conditioning and decide what stays and what you are ready to let go of.
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Dysfunction can be many things. Where do your dysfunctions lie? On the surface, dysfunction can involve how you present yourself to others, communication with your team, your outward moods and mannerisms. Going deeper, dysfunction can involve inner discontent, personal “baggage” you inappropriately bring into your work, impaired functioning of some manner. Leadership is personal. You cannot leave yourself behind as you perform your work; you bring who you are along with you. Awareness of your dysfunctions allows you to sharpen your skills and effectiveness. So many of the troubles in our workplaces result from manager dysfunction. Heed the maxim, “know thyself” and you will be better for it.