Feeding Fear Instead Of Stopping It

Fear is unpleasant and disconcerting. It can show up in life and work, with people you love and those you don’t, in unfamiliar situations and because other people are promoting it.

If you don’t like feeling fear, make sure not to feed it. Fear can get a grip on you very quickly. It has a power of its own and takes courage and strength to deal with. Learn to recognize and understand your fear. Once it shows up, find ways to stop it, rather than letting it grow.

You can stop fear in many ways: by grounding in the present moment and looking at the cause of your fear and by finding techniques to deal with it such as employing ways to calm yourself down, engaging in physical exercise or identifying the usual causes of your fear and addressing them directly.

The next time you feel fear best to stop it, rather than feed it. Fear slows you down and scares you. Your life and work are better off without it.

 

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Persisting

There is power in persisting. It may seem that you are trying and trying, with little result. You may feel discouraged or weary. As long as you want to reach your destination, keep going. You do not always know where an endpoint is or what a journey asks of you.

Quitting often gets you nowhere. Persisting serves you. You get stronger in the process. You develop clarity and focus. You gain wisdom. Eventually, you get the prize, even if it is not the prize you originally were going for.

 

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Walk Away

walkawayOliaGozhaunsplashI find the decision to walk away difficult at times. The crux lies in whether the situation is harmful or helpful. A decision to walk away can be a refusal to see something I need to address in order to grow. In that case, it will inevitably return and might as well be dealt with now. Or, a decision to walk away can be an empowering one, through which I can gain strength and wisdom.

When was the last time you walked away from something? How did it work out? Were you empowered or stagnated by your decision? How do you decide whether to stay or walk away?

 

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Resilience

It is difficult to watch the destruction and pain caused by the tornado in Moore, Oklahoma. People find hope in believing residents will rebuild and recover. They talk of resilience.

Last year I wrote a blog post on resilience in managing . While it is an important skill for our work as managers, I wonder what resilience will demand of the people of Moore. We should not take it lightly. We may try to comfort ourselves by saying they’ll be back. But in doing so, we negate the tremendous strength it takes to recover from an experience such as the people of Moore have gone through.

Resilience stretches us and those who are resilient deserve our admiration. That includes managers.