Yeah right, add dealing with stress to your “to do” list! That’s a great way to create more stress than you already are experiencing. Wait – rethink that for a minute. If you pause every once in a while, you will start reducing your stress. If you shift your perspective and improve your relationship with time, you will reduce your stress. And these things do not take much time at all.
Reducing your stress is mainly an inside job. “Doing” things – say taking a meditation class or using the Calm App do take time. Start first with inner shifts and time will become available for you to do a lot more to reduce the stress you are experiencing today.
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How is your workload? Are you handling it all? Are you balancing well? Busy can mean a lot of things: too much to do, overwhelm, stress, active engagement, productivity or even happiness at having things to do.
This week, how busy will you be?
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The holiday season is often a busy one. Is there anything it would make sense to “suspend” until the season is over? Time is finite and stress increases as our expectations do, particularly when you are out of time. Bring yourself to the present moment. How is your stress level right now? What are you expecting to get done during the holiday season? Do you have the time and energy to accomplish all that you want to?
By being realistic with your time and expectations, you keep yourself centered and strong. By lightening your load, you can enjoy the holidays and start the new year well.
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To get something done, your intent must be strong. How about a strong intention to find joy during the holiday season? By doing this, chances are good you will succeed.
We can all create joy without losing anything. Your joy is contagious, as well, bringing joy to others. This holiday season find joy. It is yours for the asking.
What joy can you find today?
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It is late at night and I am down to the line in writing this blog post. It has to be done, so here I am. It has been a packed week and my sentiment is “enough, already”.
What do you do when you hit this place? Do you push on or give it up? Of course, different circumstances create different responses. Maintaining your balance, realizing sometimes you have to give an extra push and knowing your limits help you cope. Here’s hoping you do not reach this place too often. And now my post is done. ☺
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More and more, I am encountering discussions about anxiety in both my coaching and my personal life. What is going on? Are we changing in some way and adjusting to the change?
Are the speed and uncertainty of our world affecting many and inducing anxiety? We should stay aware of the presence of anxiety in both ourselves and in others. It is an indicator that something needs attention. When anxiety shows up, examine if you are living your life in alignment with your values, if time is getting the better of you or if something is wanting your attention.
Anxiety does not serve you or others. It may take time and effort to deal with, but will be totally worth your while. Best to face it and find your way through.
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Do you strive to be “in control”? Many people do. It strikes me how many varying perspectives there are regarding what being in control means. Some go overboard, thinking they must control every aspect of their environment – an almost impossible thing to do. Others are selective and want to control only certain aspects of their work and lives. Some aim to control themselves, thinking that is the only true control they have. Some try to control others, which often causes harm.
How about you? What must you control in your work and life? If you “lose control” is it catastrophic? How realistic is your perspective on what you can and cannot control?
Control is fine, when you are you able to do so. Having control can also be an illusion. Know how to discern this and your life will be “under control” in the best way possible.
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A recent BBC Capital article, How Faking Your Feelings At Work Can Be Damaging, introduced me to the concept of emotional labor. The term emotional labor refers to the work you do to regulate your emotions to create “a publicly visible facial and bodily display within the workplace”.
Whoa! Do you find yourself doing this often? The article goes on to say that studies have found that burnout can relate more closely to how employees manage their emotions during interactions, rather than the volume of interactions themselves. Those who report regularly having to display emotions at work that conflict with their own feelings are more likely to experience emotional exhaustion.
Now you have emotional labor to add to all the other labors work asks of you. It is worth paying attention to. Emotional labor can clearly have a negative impact on your life balance and fulfillment at work.
I say this both lightly as well as seriously – perhaps your organization should pay you for the emotional labor involved in your work!
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In my training at The Coaches Training Institute, they introduced a concept called “Chunking It Down”. It is a very effective way of managing, organizing and dealing with overwhelm. Chunking it down is simple – you take a task that has multiple parts and break it down into small, actionable steps.
Anything you are working on now that could benefit from chunking it down? Give it a try. It keeps you moving and is great for reducing stress.
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How often do you look at the actual act of balancing your life? You may know when your life is balanced, when it is not and the level of balance you want to achieve. That’s good. From there, how do you, day-to-day, maintain that balance?
Balancing is a “present moment” thing. It asks your awareness of when you are slipping out of balance, your knowing how to regain your balance and your agility in dealing with time. Think of a situation when maintaining your balance was very challenging. It may have been a time when you were facing competing demands, had too much to get done in the time you had or were experiencing work – personal life tensions. What did you do? Were you able to maintain balance or did things go awry?
Focusing on the act or art of balancing serves you. How do you best maintain your balance on a day-to-day basis? What do you do to regain your balance if it is lost? Develop your skill for balancing and you’ll soon find yourself mastering it.