Yes, it is the season of treats and they are especially appropriate in these times. Are you taking good care of yourself? Are you giving yourself extra treats to counter the stress you are experiencing?
Identify some things that bring you joy and treat yourself often and heartily!
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Sometimes, you can feel like you are cracking open. Stress, change or unsettling events can be the cause. It is not a comfortable place to be. The nature of the occurrence and how you view it makes a big difference in how you experience it.
Cracking open can be a crisis leading to tragedy or opportunity. It can be a release of the old to make room for the new or an indication that there is something very wrong in your life. Or, it can be the start of a transformation.
Whenever you begin to feel like you are cracking open, find your way back to center. Observe what is happening and treat yourself with kindness. Handle it in the best way you can. It could be the beginning of a wonderful time for you.
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The challenges of this time seem to not be going away. You may have thought that they would be around for a short time and then you could return to normal. It’s not looking that way. Actually, the pressure seems to be mounting.
How do you deal with remote work, kids schooling from home, social distancing, health risks and scares and other restrictions? How your life has changed? The path ahead is uncharted and that means you find your own way. Do the best you can. Be kind to yourself and believe that you will find a way. Keep your eye out for silver linings and new opportunities that will help make this a positive time for you.
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Sometimes you have to create some space around you. Walls crowd in and it is all too much. Pressures, people, demands, dissonance and missteps take their toll.
Creating space around you allows you to breathe. You can reorient, calm down and regain perspective. The next time you have had enough, find some space to regroup in. You won’t regret it!
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Frustration is an intense emotion. When other emotions are on the rise at the same time, frustration can easily get out of hand. As the amount of stress you are under compounds, carefully watch what is happening with your frustration level. Frustration can take you to destructive places that do not serve you.
Managing your frustration, especially in times of elevated stress is a key element of emotional intelligence. Protect yourself, learn to quiet your frustration when you need to and you’ll avoid some bumpy rides.
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Respite: a short period of rest or relief from something difficult or unpleasant
Upheavals in our lives and work need to be recognized and balanced. Are you feeling balanced these days? One way to balance the effects of the changes and chaos the world is going through now is to schedule periodic and regular respites. The number of respites you need usually correlates to the amount of stress you are experiencing.
Create room in your life for respites. They will help you center and are enjoyable as well!
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I am beginning to sense that with the COVID-19 situation we are in for a number of ups and downs. Week to week in my coaching and communicating with friends, I am seeing them in action. Of course, the degree of how up and how down varies with each person. Some are dealing with extreme challenges; others are finding themselves tossed to and fro. Few are experiencing life as it used to be.
We need to find ways to navigate these ups and downs or they will mess with our focus and knock us off balance. I am developing ways to handle them. Focus is key to me. If I can get myself back to center when distracted, I can regain focus. I allow that a portion of my energy is going to coping with change and have lowered my expectations a bit. I also create some structure each day so that I do not drift too far.
If ups and downs are with us for a while, lets find ways to deal with them. There’s a good chance that they are leading us to positive change and will be worth it in the long run.
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The ability to discern where you expend your energy is critical now. If you are using all that you have to live and work, you don’t have extra energy for other people’s dramas or demands. You want to do what you need to do to take care of yourself and your loved ones, get your work done and be where you can do the most good.
Are others’ issues or demands encroaching on you or stressing you right now? If your answer is yes, take some time to evaluate what is happening and what you want to do about it. There are ways you can set boundaries without being aggressive or nasty. If you do not have time or energy to answer a demand or to do something, state that clearly and kindly to the people involved.
Knowing what to say no to and what to say yes to will help you maintain balance and function effectively in these times.
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We’re in a different space now. All of us are adjusting. In times of change, it is good to check in with yourself periodically to assess how you are doing. Why? Because there are no routines or set paths. What was is not always relevant. Stress and anxiety are present.
Answer a few questions. What is important to you now in your life and work? What is in your best interest to do? What are the things that can dishearten or stress you? What makes you feel better? What must you get done? Once you have these answers, you can create a way to check in with yourself periodically and when you find yourself losing your center. After your check in, you can course-correct and get yourself back to center.
Checking in will help you set a new path that works for you and move you forward in the direction you want to go.
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Overwhelm gets you off track. It can be a dangerous place to be in terms of your stress level, making mistakes or messing up. There is energy expended in your overwhelm that can be transformed into productive energy. If you find yourself in overwhelm, try these five things to prevent crashing and to get back on a productive track.
1. Stop and bring yourself fully to the present moment.
2. Observe what has happened and center yourself.
3. Find a way to release the emotions and stress you are feeling.
4. Reorient yourself, identify what you can get done and set priorities.
5. Start working again, fully present to what you are doing.
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