A recent New York Times column, Your Workplace Isn’t Your Family (And That’s OK!) , has a warning for people who see work as family: put yourself first.
Do you see your co-workers as family? It is easy to go to that place. You spend so much time with them. You want to be accepted. You work as a team. It is important to distinguish that “family” as you know it at home, is an illusion in the workplace. You can redefine family for your workplace; however be sure you have no confusion – work is not family.
Work can be a rewarding and rich experience with lasting relationships, yes. However, remember you are at work to perform and reach common goals, that may not be your own. You have to look out for you.
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1. Take a nap
2. Make a change of scene
3. Watch a video that makes you laugh
4. Talk to or text someone who makes you happy
5. Do something that fuels you
6. Find the cause of your weariness, so that you can correct it
8. Plan a future vacation
9. Nurture yourself
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There are times in all careers when problems arise. These problems can create stress, anxiety and worry. What is your first response or reaction when a problem arises? Do you address it or avoid it? Your response to a problem can greatly influence how you experience it. Looking a problem in its face can serve you well. In most situations, action by you is needed to make a problem go away.
You may naturally recoil at first from looking a problem in its face. Doing so is difficult, uncomfortable and you don’t know what the outcome will be. However, facing a problem is the start of getting rid of it. Mustering courage to face a problem serves you well. Be strategic and before you know it, the problem will go away thanks to action taken by you.
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A recent New York Times article, France Lets Workers Turn Off, Tune Out and Live Life, tells of a law passed in France that requires companies with more than 50 employees to negotiate a new protocol to ensure that work does not spill into days off or after-work hours. Yes, you read that right!
How often do you disconnect from your work? How do you do it? Is it a complete break or do you never totally leave your work? Disconnecting from work involves your mind, emotions, body and spirit. Far from putting you at a disadvantage, disconnecting revitalizes you, sharpens your mental acuity, centers you and has great benefits for your career.
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In my last post I wrote about the source of your negativity and looking below the surface for its roots. The source of your positive thinking, in contrast, is self-generated by you. Staying positive in a chaotic and challenging world takes effort.
You can cultivate a positive attitude by doing and thinking in positive ways. Examples of sources of positive doing and thinking can be: being with people who “lift you up”, listening to music that inspires you, doing things that give you joy, finding positive reasons why you live and work the way you do, staying away from negative influences, developing ways to counteract your own negativity when it arises and committing to maintaining a positive attitude
What are the sources of your positivity?
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As time goes by, you can get enveloped in the details of your work and career and what you want gets lost in the process. Don’t let that happen. You can be fulfilled and happy in your work and only you know what you need to be so.
If you had to pick three things you do not have now but that you want in your work, what would they be? What are you doing to make them happen?
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It is hard to work happy if you do not know what it looks like. What does working happy look like for you? Do you need challenge, harmony, growth, good coworkers, balance, a certain environment or growth opportunities, for example?
If you do not have a ready answer to what working happy looks like for you, create one. You deserve to work happy and it’s up to you to set a course to get there. I write a newsletter, Working Happy, guiding you to work that leaves you happy at the end of the day. You can find out more about it here.
Here’s to all of us being happy and productive in our work!
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It is a common phrase to say one is going back to the grind of their work. For me, the phrase infers that one is going back to low level, repetitive work that is not terribly exciting. Going back to the grind is okay every once in awhile, but not as an every day thing. Your work as a manager should be challenging, diverse, collaborative, motivating, sometimes frustrating and inspiring. If it is not, it is worth some reflection on what is happening.
Is your work fulfilling or is it a grind? If it is a grind, what are the elements of your work that make it so? Have you lost your enthusiasm for what you do? Sure, on projects there are always periods of hard work that can be a grind, but they should be short ones, leading somewhere, with a good end in sight.
If your work has become a grind, do something to wake it up. Examine your own contribution to making it a grind, as well as your organization’s. Life is too short to do lackluster work. It will wear you down and deprive the world of your unique gifts.
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No question that our world is speeding up. It is helpful to pause at certain points and look at where you are and where you want to go. What do you think about today being December 1st? The start of the holidays? The end of 2015 is coming? Running out of time?
What will December look like to you? What do you want to accomplish this month? How will you fit the holidays in? Will December be a slow or fast month for you? How will you balance?
I know – a lot of questions. However, answering them will allow you to take control of your month and make it what you want it to be.
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How do you use your quiet days at work?
Do you go at a slower pace? Rush to catch up? Reflect?
Be fully present when you have the gift of a quiet day. Use it well. You deserve it.
Hope that readers in the United States had a great Thanksgiving holiday. Thank you to all of you for reading The Managers Hub!
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